Why Straight Guys Should Try Anal Toys!
In this day and age, I hope you know it’s perfectly normal for straight men to indulge in and enjoy a little anal stimulation. If you don’t already know, I’m here to tell you: enjoying anal stimulation via toys or other methods does NOT make you gay! If you are gay, that’s okay, too, but we’re talking about straight men here today so let’s stay on topic 😉 Straight guys can enjoy anal play just as much as anyone else and there are many reasons why you should consider trying it out if you haven’t already. We took the liberty of drawing up a handy list for you 😛
Why Straight Guys Should Try Anal Toys!
First up, I want to quickly mention that you’ll want to discuss the idea of anal play with your partner beforehand, but be honest with yourself; is she someone who would be into the idea? If not, you may want to explore this avenue on your own before figuring out how to bring it up. If you think she might be open to the idea of anal fun, then go for it! It could open up a whole new area of exploration for you and your partner that really adds new excitement to your sex life. Also, having the support of your partner will help you to feel more comfortable and excited, even, about what’s in store!
- It Can Broaden Your Sex Life. If you’ve been very straight-laced until now, trying anal play and anal toys out is a great opportunity to break out of your shell! Try new things with your partner, grow together in your sexual fulfillment and get to know yourself better. Anal play between you and your partner can also be a little secret between the two of you which might make things that much more intense and erotic.
- Anal Play Opens Up A Whole New Avenue of Sexual Exploration. If you’ve only previously explored more vanilla areas of sexual enjoyment, then anal play can really open up the doors of an exciting new world for you! Anal play will help both of you explore new erogenous zones and feel more fulfilled, excited, and passionate in bed.
- Anal Stimulation Can Help You Experience the Best & Most Intense Orgasm Of Your Life. It’s well known that prostate stimulation, the area stimulated during anal play, is one of the most sensitive pleasure spots on the body. There are a bundle of nerves that exist in this area and stimulating it can result in more intense orgasms for both parties.
How to Try Anal Play for the First Time:
- The first thing you want to do is get yourself cleaned up! This means cleaning the anal area, inside and out, doing a bowel movement beforehand, showering, and even doing an enema if you feel it’s needed. You can shave the area if you feel more comfortable, but it’s up to you.
- Once you’re ready to enjoy a little anal play, you’ll want to lay towels down on your bed or wherever the fun will be had! Towels are great to have on hand just in case there’s any mess with lubricant, etc.
- After everything is set up, the main thing you want to do is RELAX. Make sure your muscles are completely relaxed as much as possible. You may feel nervous your first time, but just remember it’s all in good fun and pleasure. Relaxing your muscles will help ensure that there is as little resistance and pressure as possible which will increase the pleasurable feeling during anal play.
- Remember to decide, beforehand, which toys you want to try, if any, or how you want to explore stimulation. You can try small anal toys, have your partner use their fingers or mouth (rim job), or use a strap-on for a little pegging fun. If you’re trying anal toys for the first time, make sure the toy has a sturdy handle or larger base so it doesn’t get stuck; awkward ER visits are easily avoided with a little care and precaution.
- Before you dive into trying out your toys, be sure you have some lubricant on hand. If you plan to use toys, make sure you’re using a water based lubricant so that your toy doesn’t degrade. If you’re simply using your hands, you can safely use silicone lubricants as desired.
- Have fun and enjoy the ride 😉
Stay Safe & Naughty 😉
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Disclaimer: We, here at Masturgasm, are not doctors (though we love dressing up as naughty ones ;-)). We do not claim to be healthcare professionals; we only offer the best advice and what has worked best for us. If you are unsure whether any of these tips are right for you, please seek care with a medical doctor or primary healthcare physician.
Safe Sex Tips for College Students
Whether you’re off to college yourself or sending off one of your eldest kids, safe sex is a must. If you happen to be going off to college and higher learning, you’re also heading off to an entirely new pinnacle of partying and sexual exploration. That said, you’ll want to make sure you’re protecting yourself when you have your college fun. Here are some safe sex tips to help you on your quest for higher knowledge and sexual fulfillment without consequence. If you happen to be a parent of a college student, these tips are also great to help make sure they’re prepared if they’re living on campus or away from home.
Safe Sex Tips for College Students
- Always Carry Condoms. Whether you’re male or female, condoms are non-negotiable. Carry them in your pockets, in side pockets of your purse, and be sure that it’s in a cool, dry place. That means you want to avoid storing it in your wallet as the heat can cause condoms to dry out and tear. Keeping them on you at all times ensures you’re ready for fun without fear of consequences!
- Buy In Bulk. Obviously, if you plan on having a massive amount of sexual exploration and enjoyment, you’ll want to be prepared. Purchasing condoms in bulk online is your best bet. You’ll save money in the long run and never run out when the mood strikes. Store them in a box or drawer away from heat and prying eyes.
- Test Your Sensitivities. If you happen to be sensitive to latex condoms, try alternatives such as polyurethane as these are less likely to cause a reaction or irritation if you have sensitive skin. Do a patch test on your inner arm to figure out if you might have a sensitivity or speak with your doctor about the best choice for you.
- Get Checked. Whatever sexual adventures you go on, make sure you get yourself checked at a local clinic or with your primary care physician periodically, either annually or bi-annually to ensure you’re free of any STD’s. It’s always best to deal with early detection so you can take the necessary steps to treat any existing STD’s and otherwise, it may just give you peace of mind to know you’re STD-free.
- Use Added Contraceptive Methods. If you are in a committed relationship, this might be easier to do, but ensure your girlfriend is on birth control and/or your boyfriend uses protection every single time. Not all methods are foolproof, but every bit helps. If all else fails, try masturbation – it’s the safest sex you can have 😉
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Disclaimer: We, here at Masturgasm, are not doctors. We do not claim to be healthcare professionals; we only offer the best advice and what has worked best for us. If you are unsure whether any of these tips are right for you, please seek care with a medical doctor or primary healthcare physician.
Butt Plugs for Beginners
Butt Plugs for Beginners
I know we tend to gear toward extremes when it comes to sexual pleasure, but if you happen to be more at the beginning stages of your erotic journey of sex exploration, you probably want something a bit more tame and that’s cool with me! We have tons of smaller plugs that we’ve recently added to Masturgasm just for all the beginners!
- Micro Butt Plug – At only 4 inches tall (3.5 inches insertable length), this is our smallest butt plug! We have it in 5 different colors and it’s tapered design allows you to go as slow or fast as you like.
- AstroTech Butt Plug – Small – Another ideal plug for starters, this plug has more of a realistic shape to it with veins, texture ridges, and a tapered head so it’s slightly more intense than the micro plug because it’s a lot thicker, but the same length.
- Small Mole Plug – This is the skinniest plug of the 3 and it’s got a slightly tapered design so you can enjoy anal in baby steps! It’s slightly longer at 3.75 inches insertable, but also a little bit thinner than the Micro plug. Available in 2 colors.
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Your Guide to Medical Fetish Play
Your Guide to Medical Fetish Play
Nearly all children engage in some form of “playing doctor” or nurse at some point in their childhoods. I think we’ve all been there, done that, but for some of us, the sexual intrigue and mystique of the medical fantasy world lives on into adulthood. That’s where medical fetishes come in.
Medical fetishes stem from this innocent childhood play and evolved into something a bit more perverse and erotic (of course). There are many facets to medical play, commonly referred to as Clinic in some places, that can be indulged in from the very tame kink to the more advanced levels. Some forms of medical fetish are not sexual in nature, but many of them more commonly are.
Basic medical fetishes are all based in the same origin of a medical type environment of either a doctor or nurse and a patient. There are a number of medical devices and medical fetish toys one can employ during these sessions and they are widely varied from a doctor’s stethoscope to medical style tools, penis sounds and plugs, medical restraints, spreader bars, latex, and more.
Whatever your level of erotic intensity during medical play, be sure that safety comes first. It’s important to ensure that both you and your partner(s) are enjoying the play to the fullest and feel both comfortable and pleasure-filled.
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Rope Bondage Basics
Your BDSM Guide:
Rope Bondage Basics
This week’s kink guide is focusing on all the basics of rope bondage. What is rope bondage, you ask?
Rope bondage, in a nutshell, is the act of enjoying power play (dominant and submissive role play) with the use of ropes. There are many different kinds of ropes and knots one can employ during bondage rope roleplay and each person is particular to what he/she may like.
The Ropes:
Jute, hemp, cotton, silk, and linen are all natural materials which you can purchase to use in rope bondage. Other types are nylon, polypropylene and parachute cord which are all synthetic rope options. Natural fibers are usually better options for beginners as they tend to be softer and more malleable against the skin. That said, they’re also much less stretchy than synthetic ropes which allow submissives more room to wiggle around. The wiggle room helps prevent circulation so just keep that in mind if you plan on using natural fibers as they don’t allow as much wiggle room despite being softer. One other thing to be aware of are rope burns which can easily occur with any rope material. Materials you want to avoid due to the danger of cutting off circulation and doing nerve damage to yourself and/or your partner include cable ties, cables, bungee cords, and sharp edge plastics. These are considered dangerous materials to use as they are much more likely to cause harm.
The Average Rope Cuts:
- 5 Meters for Hand and Feet Rope Ties
- 10 Meters for Small Bondage Ties (1/3 or 1/2 body ties)
- 20 Meters are usually enough for Full Body Bondage Ties
The Knots:
- Square Knot, Hitch (half, clove, anchor), Slipping Reef Knot, French Bowline Knot and more. There’s a more comprehensive explanation of knots here.
Different Uses for Rope Bondage:
There are many different ways you utilize rope bondage. One way is as a kind of discipline training for the submissive and encourages obedience. The loss of control for the sub will allow them to truly submit to their dominant. It can also serve as a form of punishment, predicament (how did I get here? 😉 ), and general restraints to restrict movement during any number of role play scenarios. They all have different effects during role play and should all be explored with agreed upon parties.
Rope bondage is a great way to further explore a dominant and submissive relationship, but it pays to be educated on each aspect of the role play ahead of time. This ensures the safety and comfort of both partners during said roleplay which allows more freedom to truly let go, explore, and enjoy the pleasures of a bdsm arrangement.
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Your Guide to Erotic Biting
Although we’re not all self-proclaimed vamps in bed, I think it’s safe to say everyone enjoys a little erotic biting now and again. Whether it’s on the neck, thighs, or someplace a little more intimate, biting can be a sign of passion, aggression and sensual pleasure. If you’re new to this kind of token of affection, our guide is just the thing you need to get a handle on trying it out for yourself and enjoying a little gentle (or not so gentle) nibbling of your own!
Your Guide to Erotic Biting
- Test the Waters: If you’ve never tried erotic biting in bed with a partner, you might want to take things slow. Test the waters by gently grazing their neck or collar bone with your teeth as you kiss them. You don’t want to go gnawing away at someone who might not be into it so it’s best to ease into things. If you’re really unsure, you can speak with your partner directly and see if that’s something they’re okay with. Communication is key!
- Where to Bite: Where you decide to dig your teeth in (however gently) is up to you and your partner, but there are specific erogenous zones that will act as pleasure spots for your partner. These are great places to start if you’re new to sensual biting. These pleasure hot spots include your neck, collar bone, lips, thighs, butt, and even breasts, vagina (if they’re okay with it!), and inner wrists. Be gentle until you know if you’re partner is into it and communicate what you both like to determine the best plan of action, intensity, etc.
- How to Bite: As I previously said, you don’t want to go gnawing away at your partner without their consent. That’s the quickest way to kill the mood if they’re not into it. If they are okay with gentle biting, however, make sure your bites are quick, gentle, and don’t break skin. On top of that, intimate areas are completely off limits unless you and your partner agree it’s okay to do so. And remember: hickies are tacky.
- Slowly Increase Intensity: Again, erotic biting is something you’ll want to ease into. Gentle biting here and there as you kiss and caress your partner is a great way to build up the intensity over time. The pressure and intensity of the bites all depend on you and your partner’s tastes so be sure to communicate how you feel, what you like, and what you don’t so that your partner can reciprocate their desires as well.
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A Beginner’s Guide to Cock Rings
“Welcome to the jungle, we got naughty thangs!”
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Cock rings have been a common sex aid for ages. It has been the naughty little secret at the bedsides of many, helping intensify the sexual experience.
“What does it do for me?”
“How does it work?”
“Will it make my pecker fall off?”
This article will answer these questions and more, so pull up a chair and get ready for a sexual awakening!
What is a Cock Ring?
A cock ring is a ring made from plastic, metal, silicone, or PVC that is designed to slow blood flow to the penis, making it harder and more sensitive while delaying ejaculation and ultimately, intensifying your overall climax. Although this is the primary purpose of a cock ring, many have secondary or even more functions to them, which we will talk about later.
In a nutshell, it is a rubber O ring that can make your pecker harder and makes you last longer!
Are Cock Rings Safe?
Please remember, Cock Rings affect the blood flow to the penis, so if you are unsure whether any item is right for you, its always advisable for you to consult with your doctor or physician. Remember, we all are different, and we here at masturgasm do NOT want your ticker to stop ticking.
Here are a few guidelines on how to safely and properly use your Cock Ring
Sexual Safety Tips
- Make sure you are comfortable with the size, flexibility, and elasticity of the ring. We recommend that beginners use a more loose or more elastic ring ( the Paramour Cock Ring is a great ring that stimulates you and her!)
- Do not wear a cock ring for more than 30 minutes, if your penis turns blue, or you feel uncomfortable swelling. If any of these occur, take the ring off immediately.
- Beginners should try the ring for 5 minutes at first to understand how it feels and make sure it’s a comfortable fit.
- DO NOT use a make shift cock ring. Please be nice to your pecker and it will be nice to you!
- We at masturgasm do not recommend hard plastic cock rings, they tend to damage the skin and bruise easily.
- Make sure when applying the ring to use a generous amount of lubrication to ensure ease of wear and more comfort during use.
- If you are wearing a condom, make sure that the ring is not rubbing against it, for risk of ripping the condom through friction.
- It is advised that you trim your pubic region around the penis and testicles to avoid snagging hairs. Unless that’s something you are into….then snag away!
Which Ring Should I Choose?
While there are many kinds of cock rings that are different sizes made with different materials, we recommend flexible slightly loose rings for the beginner. Once you are more experienced you can try out metal cock rings for a more intense experience or look into the more complex cock rings that offer urethral stimulation, anal stimulation, or perineum stimulation.
Knowing Your Size
No two rings are alike, and for that reason, no two cock rings are alike. It’s always best to measure your penis before getting a cock ring, that way you ensure that you will be comfortable and safe. Too small cock rings are a risk because they can cause damage to tissues and bruising.
The good thing is, if you are picking a flexible cock ring it will fit pretty much any size and most companies make sure the rings are elastic enough to cover most penis sizes. That being said, if you are looking for a metal cock ring, you MUST measure beforehand so that the ring is your size. So be honest about the size of your wang and start measuring!
Measuring Tips
Make sure that you measure your penis while it is erect, from the base of your penis to find the right circumference! Once you have the measurements of penis girth, divide the number by 3.14 (Pi) and you will have the circumference of your penis! This will give you a better understanding on what size cock ring is right for you.
TYPES OF COCK RINGS
Double Magnum Polished Stainless Steel Cock Ring
Metal/Stainless Steel
Metal cock rings are solid non flexible, cock rings made for a specific size. They are easy to clean and minimal. It is advised that you measure your unit. One downside to a metal ring is that it is difficult to remove quickly for relief, so it is not recommended for a beginner user.
Solid Flexible Ring ( Silicone, PVC)
Flexible Cock rings are our best selling rings out of the cock ring family. Easy to put on and easy to take off for almost any size, these rings are also very affordable. One downside to a flexible cock ring is that it might break during really rough sessions if the ring is thin.
Textured ring
Textured cock rings are either textured either for the wearer or the rider so they can enjoy ribbed textures on the inside of the ring for penile stimulation or sometimes on the outside for stimulating others. These toys come in various textures and sometimes can be uncomfortable to those with sensitive skin so be sure to research the texture and hardness of the material before choosing a textured ring.
Quick release/adjustable cock ring
The quick release cock ring usually has a button or fastener to adjust the tightness and quickly remove. These are great for beginners and experienced users due to their adjustable size.
Tear drop Cock Ring/Cock sling
A Tear drop cock ring is a more complex cock ring, it has a flared end that is used to support the scrotum and massage the perineum ( the part of skin behind your balls, some like to call this area the chode ). These are great for the beginner that really wants to try something new and kinky, and is slightly curious about anal sensations. We recommend the Steampunk Cock ring to start out with.
Purple Ridged Vibrating Jelly Cock Ring
Vibrating Cock Ring
These vibrating bad boys are among our best sellers! Great for dual purpose, penile or perenium stimulation if you turn it around! Great for couples and beginners!
1.5″ brutus cock ring and anal plug Plug ring fun original
Cock Ring with Buttplug
These combo cock rings are not for the feint of heart! Combining anal stimulation with delayed orgasms can be an intense ride. These toys can come in various sizes and materials so be sure to measure the distance between the anus and scrotum and around the penis to ensure a proper fit!
Cock Cages
These little devices are almost in their own category! Some are an assortment of rings that go from the top of your penis to the base of the penis, providing a very unique experience. There is also something called a chastity cock cage that is worn to prevent sexual gratification. If you are interested in chastity devices, we recommend you check out the Spartacus chastity cock cage!
Using your cock ring
If you are using your cock ring for the first time, its best to use lots of lube, and trim the hair around the base of your penis and scrotum. Try putting it at the base of the penis shaft first to see how snug it gets, if comfortable you can stretch or maneuver it to be around the balls, or both at once. For beginners we recommend that you wear it for a short period (5-10 minutes) at first to get comfortable with the sensations. If you have a metal cock ring we recommend putting it on before your penis is erect to ensure comfortable application by putting each testicle through the ring at first, then the penis while pulling the ring towards your body.
If you are playing alone, you can masturbate or rotate the ring around to find your sweet spot! If you are with your partner, and have a vibrating ring, you can let them move the ring around or ride while receiving stimulation from the ring. For best clitoral stimulation we advise short thrusts to maintain contact with the vibrator and clitoris. The rest my sexy friend, is up to you!
REMEMBER!
Be safe, do not have your ring on for more than 30 minutes! if you feel any discomfort or swelling take the ring off immediately. If you are wearing a metal ring, wait till your penis is soft and remove your penis the same way you inserted it very carefully.
Cleaning your cock ring
After your session, you can wash your cock ring with antibacterial soap and warm water. Store the cock ring in a cool dry place separate from any other adult toys. Be sure to remove any large batteries from the cock ring before cleaning.
Cock rings are a great entry level toy that provide pleasure and utility for the right user. It is a toy that has been used throughout history, and has evolved throughout time providing new sensations for many sexual explorers.
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Urethral Stretching: A Beginner’s Guide
Sounding: The insertion of an object into the urethra
Meatorrhaphy: The procedure of enlarging the urethral opening
Penis plugs, and urethral sounds are highly popular tools for sexual arousal, experimentation and pleasure. Alot of men use them to find new ways of achieving sexual pleasure. These tools can be used for sex, masturbation, role play, and whatever else you can think of (please be safe!)
Before you begin your journey into the world of penis sounds, and plugs, lets make one thing clear; the penis is a sensitive organ, so be safe, clean, and take it very slow. If done correctly this fetish can be a unique and pleasurable experience beyond your wildest dreams for you and your partner!
The difference between a sound and a plug
there are 2 kinds of toys used for urethral stretching, both are inserted into the penis and each has its own function.
A penis plug is a small plug (preferably metal for sanitary purposes) that is inserted into the urethra, for pleasure. it can make the penis alot harder, and make an orgasm alot more intense. There are many different kinds of plugs. The most basic beginner plugs are smooth and have round, usually tapered ends. The more advanced plugs will have textures, like ribs and bumps. A plug will always have a ring at the end so that the plug can be safely removed from the penis. some rings are solid, and some are hollow allowing urine and sperm to pass through it.
A urethral sound is actually used in medicine for dilating the urethra when needed during a medical examination, but its also capable of providing sexual pleasure. Urethral sounds also go deeper than a plug, reaching as far as the bladder. Some sounds have special ends for bladder stimulation.
Choosing a size
While choosing your first plug here are a few things to keep in mind for the beginner. First off make sure you pick a smooth and solid plug with a round tapered end. It needs to be smooth because your urethral walls have not accustomed to urethral insertion, helping you get used to the new sensation. The plug should be thin ( less than half an inch) so that it will not damage the urethra. Only use longer plugs and sounds when you are acclimated to urethral stimulation.
And remember, this is a very delicate sexual experience. Start small, and take it as slow as possible.
The Poseidon Urethral Sound Kit
How To Use Plugs/Sounds
Sounds, and Penis Plugs are pretty simple in shape, and basic to use. The most important thing to remember when using it is to go slow, and allow your urethra to stretch at a natural pace, any forcing could rip, and risk serious injury to your penis, and overall health. Always make sure that you sanitize your toy, 5-7 minutes in boiling water, and by wiping them with alcohol after.
Even though it sounds like a sexy idea, do not use spit! it does not provide enough slickness for the urethral walls. Always use sterile( preferably water based for easy cleaning) lubricant while using a plug, or sound.
To make sure that the insertion is as comfortable as possible it is advised that your penis is soft and not erect. Have either you or your partner hold your penis in one hand while slowly inserting the plug or sound.
During the insertion it is best to relax, and not fight these new sensations. The muscles in your urethra will work against it and try to push the plug or sound out, or block it from going in further. Try your hardest to resist the urge by relaxing as much as you can.
Once the plug, or sound is inside, try to get comfortable with it. This is the best time to start stimulating your penis, and exploring these new found sensations. Very gently stroke and see how it makes you feel. Some people like to slide the plug in and out of the urethra, and some just like it inside the urethra while they masturbate.
After you are done with your first experience, you can take it off your bucket list or explore it further with larger, textured, or other more complex plugs and sounds to achieve more in depth sensation.
Beginner Tips
- always use lube when using a plug or sound! Take care of your willy!
- First timers should use a small plug or sound with a tapered end to start out with.
- Sterilize before your sessions, leave the plug or sound in boiling water for 5-7 minutes, and wipe down with alcohol to ensure that your toy is sanitary. Also wash your hands before starting.
- Never insert anything other than a sound or plug into the urethra. any slight rugged texture can do damage to the urethral walls.
- TAKE IT SLOW, your penis will have to be trained to accept something into its urethra, so naturally it is going to resist insertion. You must take this slow to not damage anything, and so that you can enjoy it entirely.
- Never force the toy into your penis, let it insert itself naturally.
- Always take solid plugs or sounds out before you ejaculate.
Hopefully this guide helps you embark on a new sexual journey with urethral play.
Stay horny, and be safe.
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The Sexual Liberation Front: Improve Your Sex Life By Taking Charge
Male dominance can be an intimidating thing, especially if you’re in a long term relationship and have never tried it.
As a woman, it’s not always easy to take the reins in the bedroom.
We battle with the usual stereotypes and stigmas that women should be submissive, subservient and obedient all the time in life, let alone thinking of taking charge where intimacy is concerned.
I mean, unless you are absolutely born with that sort of “take charge” attitude ingrained in your personality (some lucky women are!), then the idea of dominating your lover may completely terrify you, but I am here to give you fun reasons why you absolutely should at least ONCE!
I know, I know, this is pretty intimidating if a) you haven’t done it before or b) your completely freaked out by it given your upbringing.
Either of these reasons are common and that’s nothing to worry about. I, myself, was raised to be a modest, good girl with great manners and a calm disposition. The most important thing in this is to let go and reserve judgment. Acceptance and love will literally set you free sexually. And I’m here to tell you that this is TOTALLY and COMPLETELY OKAY!
In fact, if you’re love life has taken a hit recently or is getting a bit stale, I would definitely recommend it!
You may be surprised at the results.
Here’s why:
- Your boyfriend/husband definitely wants you to. Take this: My boyfriend and I have been together going on 5 years and up until a few months ago, he always initiated in the bedroom. I often felt myself wanting to take charge, but then I always froze up. The usual stereotypes run through your mind – “Good girls don’t do that!” or “My mother didn’t raise me to behave that way!” The list goes on and on and I kept freaking myself out until my resolve completely died and I, inevitably, choked. Later, once I got over myself and out of my own head, I finally took charge. Not only was it incredibly liberating and sexually pleasurable for both of us, but I later discovered my boyfriend had been waiting for me to take control for ages as he’s really into that. Had I never taken the plunge, I would never know. Since then, not only has our sex life improved exponentially, but we have better communication than ever before.
- Kill Old Stereotypes & Subservient Sex Positions. When I spoke with a friend of mine who is a bit of a dominatrix about taking charge in the bedroom, she gave some pretty sound advice – “The whole idea of constant missionary is ancient history. The stone age is in the past so keep it there. While I don’t think you should have to take control all the time if that’s not really your thing and I quite enjoy missionary every now and again, I do think couples could absolutely benefit from a change up where safe and sexual fun is concerned. Just make sure there is strong communication and non-judgment practices. That’s my motto, anyhow.” Then she proceeded to give me advice on the proper way to flog, which I’ll get into another time ;-), but anyhow. My point is that as long as you communicate with your partner and listen to what both parties want, you should have a great erotic experience.
- It Is Sexually Liberating. Not only is playing dominatrix or even just taking charge a bit more in bed a great way to liberate your own sexual desires, but it can also liberate your significant other’s sexual fantasies as well. Doing something wild in bed allows the channels of communication between partners to be freed and each person can freely voice their desires without the fear of backlash. How great is it to be able to speak openly to one another about what you really want without judgment ? I can tell you from experience that you won’t regret it.
All in all, communication is key. Either you are the spontaneous type who can surprise your lover by taking charge during the action or maybe you want to talk it over beforehand. If you’re unsure where you stand, you can always test the waters by asking your partner what it is they like in bed or if they are interested in domination and submission roles or otherwise if they enjoy taking charge or vice versa. However you want to vocalize that is your choice and, if all else fails and this is not the fun for you, there are plenty other avenues of erotic enjoyment for you and your partner to travel along.
Good Luck!
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Sex Can Improve Your Sleep!
Did you know sex can help improve the quality of your sleep?
It’s a great way to relieve stress as it releases endorphins such as oxytocin that help your body relax and improve your sense of happiness, contentment and well being while also helping you feel more connected to your partner. Sex can be a remedy to restless leg syndrome which affects nearly 5% of Americans. Sex can also improve your immunity, help you lose or maintain a healthy weight, and much more for your overall physical and mental health.
So, what are you waiting for?
Get to it!
What do you think about sex improving sleep ?
Have you felt the effects?
Let me know in the comments below!