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How to Make Sex A Spiritual Experience

Sex is wonderful in and of itself, but if you’re looking for something a little more fulfilling to your spiritual life and want to take sex to a higher level, I came up with a few tips to help you get there!

  • Connect With Your Partner(s). Obviously, the first step to a higher level of intimacy is connecting with your partner(s). Because spirituality is a connection of the mind and spirit, you want to be at total ease and comfort with whoever you are engaging erotic activities with. There are easy ways to connect with your partner on this level that you can try, as you like, but my favorites include meditating and/or yoga practice together, weight lifting together, engaging in personal conversation without distraction, indulging in a bath or shower together, and giving one another an erotic massage. Take things slow; that’s where the magic happens!
  • Sex Meditation. Sex meditation isn’t just sitting around doing nothing, though I know a lot of people might have this belief about it. Meditation can be any number of things: making eye contact with your partner without speaking, bathing together in silence, and/or just lying next to one another without doing anything else. Meditation is a focused intention on being with one another without having to do, be, or say anything and this will help you both further connect.
  • Try Tantra. Once you feel a strong intimate bond with one another, you can take things to a higher precipice of ecstasy by indulging in tantra. There are many ways to engage in tantra, but the basics of it are slow, intense, engaged, sexual pleasure and it’s very much rooted in a connection with your partner. You can get more tips on tantra here and read about the history of tantra here.

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5 Reasons Every Woman Should Pole Dance

I know, I know, either you’re all for this crazy idea of mine or you think it’s the most ludicrous thing you’ve ever heard or perhaps you’re all blushing and giggly with the mention of pole dancing. I’m not talking about dancing in a club (unless you want to do that, then cool!), but I am talking about taking a class, reserving a room in your home for a dance pole, or setting one up in your living room to practice. Within the privacy of your own home, you have much to gain from this sexy, deliciously devilish form of fitness. Class prices can range from $20 a class to $100, depending on the teacher and studio location (usually available at many yoga studios), so if you’re on a budget, the investment of instructional DVD’s and your own dance pole will save you money in the long run. Whatever it is that you think about pole dancing right now, suspend judgment before you make a quick decision to brush off pole dancing and take a quick look at the benefits you stand to gain with regular practice of this art:

  1. Fitness: That’s right! Pole dancing, erotic dancing or any kind of dancing can and will help you shed pounds and build muscle. What better way to shed the flab and get the ultimate desirable abs while looking sexy and turning your partner on? Some self-proclaimed pole dancers claim they lost over 100 lbs. after taking a pole dancing class for a year and then installing their own in their home.
  2. Confidence: It’s no surprise that you’ll feel better about yourself and definitely sexier after a few of these classes in which you’re told to get in touch with your inner feminine side, dance sensually and strut your stuff with other women watching. Don’t worry! By the end of this class, you’ll be proud you braved the all-female gauntlet and might even surprise yourself with a natural talent for pole spins or erotic dance.
  3. Shed Your Inhibitions: So I was a little more reserved before I joined one of these pole dance/ erotic dance classes, but now I find I’m more outgoing thanks to the ridiculously embarrassing things I’ve done in this class and I’m glad of it. I went zip lining the other day and it’s definitely something I never would have even attempted before so kudos to the pole dance class that has enriched my life.
  4. Get In Touch With Your Sexy Side: Pole dance classes touches on erotic dancing and getting in touch with your femininity which is something a lot of women (myself included) may not have experienced before. Dance sensually in front of other women? Own my body and be confident? It sounds simple, but making the dancing and pole moves sexy and believably confident is more difficult than it sounds.
  5. Enhance Your Love Life: Pole dancing and erotic dance classes can actually enliven your sex life! Because so much of the dancing and pole moves involve your whole body, this class allows you to feel good in your own skin and be more sexually confident. The erotic dance portion of this class really gave me some great ideas to try in the bedroom!

By the end of my 3 month long class pass, I can say that, yes, I’ve purchased my own dance pole that is currently sitting in my living room. I do my moves every morning and have effortlessly lost 10 lbs in the past 3 months of channeling my inner Striptease Showgirl every morning. Aside from that, the benefits are limitless and my sex life has definitely seen a revival as of late, with shows happening every weekend right in my own home! I highly recommend any and every women to try this unorthodox form of fitness that is truly an art (and a workout!) ; I promise you won’t regret it!

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Intro to Tantric Sex

Beginning in India nearly 6,000 years ago, the art of Tantra emerged as a way to express rebellion against organized religion, wherein it was taught that sexuality should be rejected to obtain spiritual enlightenment. The word Tantra literally translates to mean “to manifest, to show, to expand.” In terms of sex, Tantra is said to expand one’s consciousness by connecting the opposites of male and female into a single harmonious being. Many believe that, aside from gaining a higher sense of enlightenment and revitalized sexual energy levels, one can improve their overall health through the practice of Tantra. Backed by M.D.’s, studies show that since the art of tantra aims to prolong sexual activity, it also lowers stress hormones and releases large amounts of serotonin (AKA the “happiness hormone”) into the body, which naturally produces a feeling of contentment and well being. Aside from the usual happiness serotonin produces, it also regulates mood (hence the happiness), sleep, appetite, and more. As if this is not enough evidence to prove that tantra can be beneficial not only to your sex life and your overall well being, but it is also said to deepen the connection and intimate bond between partners, thereby creating happier, more fulfilled relationships. If that’s not enough to convince you, many claim Tantric practices leave them full of energy. Now, who doesn’t want more of that?!

New to Tantra?

Try these Techniques!

  • Create an Intimate Atmosphere: Establish a place in which to practice tantra with your partner, whether it’s your bedroom or another room in your home. Be sure to make this room comfortable and cozy including candles, flowers with a nice scent or incense, soft sheets and lots of pillows and perhaps some relaxing music to set the mood.
  • Breathing Techniques: Tantra practices advice beginners to begin by having one partner sit on their partner’s lap, facing one another, and work on synchronizing their breathing. Some believe breathing in at the same time and out at the same time is better while others advice one partner to breathe in while the other exhales and so on. My advice: See what works for you and go with that.
  • Slow, Drawn Out Foreplay: I know, I know, it’s not everyone’s favorite thing to do, especially if you’re looking for the end result, but in terms of tantric sex, the end result should not be the focus. In fact, enjoying the ride and prolonging the experience are definitely the focus. In fact, foreplay allows for tension and sensations to build more slowly, prolonging the experience on a whole for both parties.
  • Eyes Wide Open: Yes, it is what you think it is. You know how everyone usually kisses with their eyes closed? Not in Tantra. In tantric sex, the goal is to connect with your partner on a deeper level and this is emphasized by looking into the eyes of one another throughout the experience. It may weird you out in the beginning, but a few glances here and there should suffice if you’re uncomfortable. Remember to accept your partner with open arms and no judgment; seeing them and being seen can be difficult, but facilitated by creating a relaxed and open environment and attitude.

Good Luck!