For Pleasuring Men:

Become best friends with Throat Desensitizing Spray. Not everyone is a natural at deep throat and while that is not the only thing pleasurable to men in the area of cunnilingus, it is one of the more important techniques to master. That is not to say that you should suffocate yourself for the delight and pleasure of your man, but you should put some effort in this category. Desensitizing Spray is really quite helpful, especially if you have an insatiable gag reflex or dislike the sensation.

For Pleasuring Women:

The most important thing to remember is that women are not like men. Hard and fast does not equal orgasm for us. We need consistent stimulation that can be compared to how a story is built. First you have your events and they’re just kind of sub par leading up to the main event, then you have the CLIMAX which is what we’re all really after and then the denouement (conclusion) to the story. In this case, the denouement will mean her pulling your hair and breathing heavily if done correctly. If you really did a number on her, she will probably laugh. Don’t take it the wrong way; trust me, it’s a good thing. The most important thing for women is soft, smooth stimulation with increasing pressure over time and PLEASE do NOT over do it with the clitoral stimulation. Clitoral stimulation can be an incredible sensation for women when done correctly, but it needs to be subtle and not to hard or direct. Too much pressure or direct rubbing on the clitoris can be the exact opposite of stimulating. In fact, in some cases, it can be irritating and even painful. It is important to remember that slow, increased pressure over time, good use of 1-3 finger insertion ( depending on the woman maybe more) and simultaneously stimulating the clitoris indirectly and with soft motions. This is the best way to induce an orgasm for your female partner that she will NOT forget. The same principles can be used over and over with subtle variations and given your own creative spin depending on the woman and her tastes.

2. Utilize Your Mouth! Many people think that because they’re pleasuring their man that any old sporadic movements will do. This is simply NOT true. When acting out oral sex on your man, it is important to really use your mouth muscles, your lips and your tongue. Although I’m sure sporadic movement may still stimulate your partner, after a while, it may desensitize him to the movements if you are constantly doing the same motions or if you have no pattern or direction during oral sex. I really recommend you alternatively use your mouth to kiss, blow on, lubricate your man (especially fun with Flavored Lubricant!), or by moaning. Your lips can be used to kiss, tease and otherwise entice your lover by either fully kissing around the penis or by dragging your lips across his body which can cause tingling sensations, assist in arousal, and other stimulation. Do NOT underestimate your tongue muscles! Many people just let their tongue roll around while performing oral sex when it really makes quite the difference in stimulation effects. Use your tongue to help lubricate the penis, stimulate the head of the penis, the shaft, etc. All of these efforts combined are a sure fire way to warrant a deliciously loud orgasm out of your man. When they have trouble keeping quiet, you know you’re doing your job right!

3. Remember to Enjoy Yourself and Listen to Your Partner.  It is important to embrace these experiences while pleasing your partner. Enjoy yourself and take some smug satisfaction in the fact that you are causing immeasurable amounts of joy and stimulating pleasure sometimes (if you’re good enough) to the point of being overwhelming. Be PROUD!

If there are certain tastes your partner has, remember to keep an open mind and speak openly with your partner about their desires in terms of oral pleasure and sex overall. Listening to what your partner wants and needs in the bedroom will ultimately help you grow together sexually and in your relationship.

Here Are Some Great Pocket Guides for Oral Sex that You May Find Helpful!

Each of these small kits comes complete with a small guide of oral techniques to try. The “Oral Sex for Her” kit comes with wild cherry stimulating gel and the “Oral Sex for Him” comes with ID Mints for added pleasure sensations.

The act of cunnilingus is give and take, so remember to give and you shall receive!

Oral Sex is Not Your Thing? Please Your Woman with this Innovative Toy!