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Anal Fun 101

Dating all the way back to the Victorian era, anal play is considered by many to be taboo. Whether you’re using anal toys or simply performing anal sex or anal masturbation, many consider this to be uncleanly or unsafe.While there are some instances in which persons may engage in unsafe or uncleanly anal practices, it is possible for you and your partner to experience a perfectly clean and safe anal experience.

Anal toys are designed to be inserted into the anus to stimulate the small bunches of nerve endings and blood vessels located  in the anus. Useful to enhance both sexual intercourse and masturbation, anal fun can be just as pleasurable as vaginal sex and some even consider it more so.

The Facts:

The anus is filled with many very sensitive blood vessels and nerve endings that swell when one is aroused. When stimulated during arousal, the anal area is very sensitive to touch and stimulation. For women, the anus is located in close proximity to the vagina so when a woman is aroused, the vagina swells increasing blood flow to the whole area making anal stimulation very intense. Some consider even anal stimulation an extension of clitoral stimulation. For men, anal play is an entirely different sensation given that they may usually be the one penetrating during sexual activities. Anal penetration provides a different sexual experience for men as it stimulates the bulb of the penis and the prostate AKA the male g-spot. Many men are able to experience a full blown orgasm through prostate stimulation alone.

Misconceptions:

There are many misconceptions about anal play. One such misconception is if a man desires anal stimulation, then that makes him gay. This is entirely not true. A man who enjoys anal stimulation with a woman is simply seeking an extension of pleasure in a varying form. Begin homosexual is about being attracted to other men sexually and aiming to experience sexual activities with them, not with women. So, if your man wants to experience anal play with you, it’s simply a different form of pleasure that you both may share. Being gay is about who you’re attracted to and your own state of mind. Another common misconception is that the anus is very dirty and messy to play with. As long as both you and your partner have regular bowel movements and practice normal hygiene, then your body will do the rest. Your body actually releases a mucus during bowel movements that cleans the anus of most traces of fecal material. To ensure that little to no fecal matter is present during anal play, simply have a bowel movement at least one hour prior to anal fun and shower to ensure cleanliness. If preferred, condoms or latex gloves may also be implemented as an extra precaution.

Preparing for Anal Play:

2 words. Lubrication and Relaxation. The first thing one should do when attempting anal sex or the use of anal toys is to RELAX. You or your partner should be aroused and completely relaxed during this process. Also, since the anus has no natural lubrication method in the body, using a lubricant is absolutely necessary to prevent cuts, rips or tears in the anal area. Remember to take things slowly and if it hurts, you should stop, regroup and take your time until you are relaxed enough to where it no longer hurts. If you are having trouble relaxing, there are a number of anal sprays and lubricants on the market with relaxing or numbing ingredients such as benzocaine in them that will facilitate your anal fun. Using quality products is important during anal sex as well to minimize the odds of toys breaking during use or harming the anal cavity. This means that smooth surfaced toys should be used to ensure that no cuts, scrapes or tears occur during the use of the toy.

In the end, remember to have fun, keep and open mind and enjoy yourself. You may just find yourself in the throes of immense pleasure and ecstasy and how could that be wrong?

Here Are Some Great Anal Toys For Each Level:

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Anal Butt Plug Penis Extension:

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The In’s & Out’s Of Sex Toys

I remember when I was 18 and this whole world of the adult industry loomed over me like a life size sex doll…Okay, that would just be odd, but really, I remember when I was first entering this industry and I was shocked, awed, confused and amused by the many facets of toys and the like and I knew very little about sex and absolutely nothing about the industry. If you don’t anything about it, it’s really nothing to worry about. If you don’t work in the industry or frequently use adult toys or shop at a local adult boutique, there’s no reason why you would and that’s totally fine. But, If you are curious and want to know more, great because that’s my job and I’m here to help.

First off, choose a toy that’s right for you:

There are SO many different kinds of toys, whether you’re male or female and each of them have their own protocol depending on the material they are made with. The material will denote what kind of cleaner you need to use and the kind of lubricant that can be used with that particular toy.

That’s right, not all lubricants can be used with all toys. In fact, using certain lubricants with certain toys can be damaging to your toy, cut the shelf life in half or ruin it instantly, and actually deteriorate the material of the toy itself until the toy is no longer usable.

The actual uses of the toy itself, ie. anal toys, clitoral toys, etc. matter little. What really is important is preserving the materials of the toy. In this case though, if you prefer to use a lubricant specifically for anal, that’s your choice although any of the other approved lubricants for that material will suffice as well.

Use the Right Lubricant & Cleaner for That Toy:

  • If you choose a toy that’s made of plastic, such as a basic hard vibe, you’re usually okay to use any kind of lubricants that you want unless the toy company you purchased it from specifies otherwise. Also, it can easily be cleaned by using soap & water or your favorite toy cleaner.

  • If you choose a toy that’s made of PVC or silicone based materials, this is where you need to pay attention. PVC/Silicone pieces are only eligible to use water based or hybrid lubricants with them because most silicone lubricants, unless they are hybrid formulations, will corrode the material of the toy and ruin it. A reaction happens between the ingredients which deteriorates the toy’s condition. Some great water based lubricants that are favored by many are those by WET or I.D. They are well known and trusted throughout the industry and many people really love their lines. They are easily found in our general lubricants category and come in many different types including water based and silicone based. Many toys that are usually made with PVC Silicone materials are Jelly type material cock rings, soft textured vibes or dildos, sleeves, extenders and the soft jelly sleeves inside of penis pumps.

Other than water based, you can also use any organic lubricants that do not have silicone (or any derivative of it) in the ingredients, flavored lubricants (all flavored lubricants are water based), any of our fun stimulating lubricants, hybrid lubricants which have both silicon derivative and water based properties that can be used safely with any toys(unless otherwise noted) and, of course, any of the toys in our toy friendly lubricants category. For cleaning, you may simply wash these toys with soap and water or use your favorite toy cleaner. Be sure to let it dry completely before re-using or storing to prevent any breakdown in the materials of your toy(s).

  • For any fauxskin, cyberskin or soft skin type silicone material such as the ones used in male masturbation toys or realistic dildos & dongs, the same rules apply as for a silicone piece so follow the rules previously stated in the above bullet point. To clean these items, you may use soap and water or your favorite toy cleaner and, if you want, it is recommended to dust a small amount of corn starch or baby powder over the toy once it is dried to preserve it’s soft texture and prevent breakdown of the materials.

So, now that you’re on your way to becoming a sex toy connoisseur like yours truly, find the right sex toy for you and enjoy your weekend having a safe, comfortable and risk-free sexual experience that is sure to make you BURST with joy…among other things 😉

(Note: All the Lubricants pictured in this blog are water based and safe for use with toys!)