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How to Make Sex More Spiritual

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How to Make Sex A Spiritual Experience

Sex is wonderful in and of itself, but if you’re looking for something a little more fulfilling to your spiritual life and want to take sex to a higher level, I came up with a few tips to help you get there!

  • Connect With Your Partner(s). Obviously, the first step to a higher level of intimacy is connecting with your partner(s). Because spirituality is a connection of the mind and spirit, you want to be at total ease and comfort with whoever you are engaging erotic activities with. There are easy ways to connect with your partner on this level that you can try, as you like, but my favorites include meditating and/or yoga practice together, weight lifting together, engaging in personal conversation without distraction, indulging in a bath or shower together, and giving one another an erotic massage. Take things slow; that’s where the magic happens!
  • Sex Meditation. Sex meditation isn’t just sitting around doing nothing, though I know a lot of people might have this belief about it. Meditation can be any number of things: making eye contact with your partner without speaking, bathing together in silence, and/or just lying next to one another without doing anything else. Meditation is a focused intention on being with one another without having to do, be, or say anything and this will help you both further connect.
  • Try Tantra. Once you feel a strong intimate bond with one another, you can take things to a higher precipice of ecstasy by indulging in tantra. There are many ways to engage in tantra, but the basics of it are slow, intense, engaged, sexual pleasure and it’s very much rooted in a connection with your partner. You can get more tips on tantra here and read about the history of tantra here.

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11 New Things To Try In Bed

  • New Positions: If you want something simple to try, new positions can definitely make things more exciting in the bedroom. Requiring only a computer or positions book to find positions, this one will keep you busy all night long! For a list of sex positions that also burn calories, click here.
  • Mutual Masturbation: This requires a little bit of trust and a lot of confidence. Although it may make you feel a little self-conscious, this can be a lot of fun and really enjoyable for both parties. For more on masturbation, click here.
  • Anal Sex: Trying anal sex is not for everyone, but many do find it to be extremely pleasurable. I recommend you do research on this in order to prevent pain and/or injuries as there is a certain technique when first starting out. For more information on anal sex, click here.
  • BDSM: This one is not for the faint at heart! Kinky sex is not for everyone, but for a large community of people, kink brings a whole other level of pleasure (and sometimes a little pain) to your sex life. If you’re unsure whether you’d enjoy this sort of thing, you can always start out easy and try handcuffs or a blindfold to see if you like it or not before moving onto more advanced play. Find out more about BDSM here. Get the 411 on Spanking here.
  • Toys: This can be a fun area to try for both parties! There are a wide variety of toys out there, including couples toys, that anyone can try and enjoy. Plus, you can enjoy these toys alone or together, whichever you choose. Check out our toy selections here. Check out more on how sex toys work and the different types of toys by clicking here. For a list of fun toys to try, check out my article here.
  • Play Dress Up: This could mean a number of things. For some, this might just mean getting dressed up in skimpy lingerie for your partner. For others, this could mean full on cosplay or naughty schoolgirl roleplaying. Check out my article on lingerie for your body type here. Which brings me to…
  • Roleplaying: Yep! Roleplaying. Roleplaying can be fun for both parties, especially if you’re into a specific fantasy or have an out of this world fetish. Plus, it’s just fun to dress up and play a role, isn’t it?
  • Pole Dancing: If you have kids, this might not be so easy to try, although they do sell collapsing poles now that are mobile and easy to take down after using to store. This can be fun for a number of reasons:For one, dancers get to show off their sexy side by dressing and moving in a sexual way to please their partner. Those on the receiving end get to enjoy the show and maybe a lap dance! Check out my 5 Reasons Every Woman Should Pole Dance article here.
  • Menage-a-Trois (Threesome): Depending on the relationship you have, this could or could not be something you want to try. Communication is key and finding out whether you both share the same fantasy or are even willing to try something like this. It also involves careful planning so that there is no jealousy involved and that everyone is truly okay with the arrangement. Want to experience a 3-some without a third party? Click here for how to do it!
  • Sex in Public/ Places: Sex in public is, admittedly, illegal. I am not suggesting you go somewhere public and get it on, but I am suggesting you enjoy yourself in any environment different than where you normal would to create a nice change of pace. Whether that’s in your kitchen or laundry room or maybe somewhere else, I’ll leave that to your discretion. Just make sure it doesn’t involve you and your partner getting arrested! For fun places to have sex, check out a list here.
  • Tantric Sex: This is a different kind of sex entirely. Some claim this to be highly spiritual and it’s actually frequently linked to yoga practitioners. Tantra is considered a spiritual experience wherein the prolonged enjoyment of sex leads to a higher state of being. To read more on tantric sex, check out my article on it here.
  • Food: Food and your senses can make sex a lot more fun and interesting. Whether this means whip cream, chocolate syrup, ice, or edible body paints is up to you. There’s also the option of inserting certain unmentionables into your unmentionables, but that’s all to your discretion! To find out more on which foods increase your libido check out articles vol. 1 & vol. 2 for a list of foods to help libido. For foods to naturally cure impotence, click here.

Intro to Tantric Sex

Beginning in India nearly 6,000 years ago, the art of Tantra emerged as a way to express rebellion against organized religion, wherein it was taught that sexuality should be rejected to obtain spiritual enlightenment. The word Tantra literally translates to mean “to manifest, to show, to expand.” In terms of sex, Tantra is said to expand one’s consciousness by connecting the opposites of male and female into a single harmonious being. Many believe that, aside from gaining a higher sense of enlightenment and revitalized sexual energy levels, one can improve their overall health through the practice of Tantra. Backed by M.D.’s, studies show that since the art of tantra aims to prolong sexual activity, it also lowers stress hormones and releases large amounts of serotonin (AKA the “happiness hormone”) into the body, which naturally produces a feeling of contentment and well being. Aside from the usual happiness serotonin produces, it also regulates mood (hence the happiness), sleep, appetite, and more. As if this is not enough evidence to prove that tantra can be beneficial not only to your sex life and your overall well being, but it is also said to deepen the connection and intimate bond between partners, thereby creating happier, more fulfilled relationships. If that’s not enough to convince you, many claim Tantric practices leave them full of energy. Now, who doesn’t want more of that?!

New to Tantra?

Try these Techniques!

  • Create an Intimate Atmosphere: Establish a place in which to practice tantra with your partner, whether it’s your bedroom or another room in your home. Be sure to make this room comfortable and cozy including candles, flowers with a nice scent or incense, soft sheets and lots of pillows and perhaps some relaxing music to set the mood.
  • Breathing Techniques: Tantra practices advice beginners to begin by having one partner sit on their partner’s lap, facing one another, and work on synchronizing their breathing. Some believe breathing in at the same time and out at the same time is better while others advice one partner to breathe in while the other exhales and so on. My advice: See what works for you and go with that.
  • Slow, Drawn Out Foreplay: I know, I know, it’s not everyone’s favorite thing to do, especially if you’re looking for the end result, but in terms of tantric sex, the end result should not be the focus. In fact, enjoying the ride and prolonging the experience are definitely the focus. In fact, foreplay allows for tension and sensations to build more slowly, prolonging the experience on a whole for both parties.
  • Eyes Wide Open: Yes, it is what you think it is. You know how everyone usually kisses with their eyes closed? Not in Tantra. In tantric sex, the goal is to connect with your partner on a deeper level and this is emphasized by looking into the eyes of one another throughout the experience. It may weird you out in the beginning, but a few glances here and there should suffice if you’re uncomfortable. Remember to accept your partner with open arms and no judgment; seeing them and being seen can be difficult, but facilitated by creating a relaxed and open environment and attitude.

Good Luck!

5 Crazy Sex Toys You Should Try!!!

I’m always willing to try new things and, because of that, I am constantly on the hunt for toys that really deliver the most incredible sensations during use. If it doesn’t feel great or is somewhat boring to me, why bother? So, after looking through all of the fantastic toys I have tried and love, I decided to pick 5 of the craziest toys that I never thought I would like, but ended up loving.

Enjoy!


  • Thick Ur Dick Girth Expander: I used this toy with my boyfriend, thinking I would hate the feeling, but I ended up enjoying this and making it a monthly fun addition to our naughty fun! This girth expander really does feel incredible; the texture is amazing, the width is filling during use and definitely induces an orgasm for me every time, several times over. The loop at the end fits over the penis like a cock ring, but with an extension attached. My boyfriend said it made things a lot more intense for him. Other fun girth expanders & extensions are the Frenchy Penis Extension and the Rumpa Bump Bump Extension.

  • Fidelity G-Spot Fantasy: I absolutely LOVE this toy! If you frequent this blog, you know how much I rave about the Fidelity Fantasy Series. This toy series is truly an innovation in sex toys and an incredible advance for women like me who want to experience a threesome without dealing with the third person. I am not a swinger (much), but I still would like to experience the threesome, double penetration sensations and this toy facilitates that! I cannot tell you enough how much I love this toy. Try it, you’ll love it and never look back. If you love it like me, try also the Fidelity Anal Fantasy #1 & the Fidelity Anal Fantasy #2.

  • The Inca Inspired Incubus Dildo: This is simply my favorite personal toy. Inspired by Incan and Aztec cultures, this toy may seem pretty big, but it’s actually only around 7 inches insertable. I love the detail on this toy and how it’s really artistic and creative. Aside from that, the detail on this toy makes for WOW-worthy sensations during use of this toy. Just thick enough, this toy is soft and supple to the touch and has a powerful base that will stay put while I have my way ;). Other artistic toys include the fun I-Cock & the Sun Man.

  • Foreskin Fucking Good: This toy is the least intimidating toy, which makes it nice for daily or weekly use. It’s shaft texture feel incredible while you ride it and since there’s a convenient suction on the base, it won’t move an inch during all the fun and moaning, which is just the way I like it. Other fun toys include the super soft Homeboy in Fauxskin & the Big Ball Penis also in Fauxskin.