Sex On A Budget: Scarves For Bondage
Bondage can be an expensive taste.
For those who are frequent practitioners or simply love the lifestyle, it is a given that any quality bondage materials often can cost you quite a bit.
Therefore, finding quality restraints is often a problem experienced by those practiced and professed in the art of bondage.
So what if you’re simply an average user or bondage curious?
If you are only curious to try out bondage love or if you don’t dabble too deeply in kink, this tip could work well for you.
Simply employ some fabric scarves as love restraints!
This saves you money because scarves are often much cheaper than any bondage restraints available.
They work well for the average user and add a touch of sensuality to any session you might be having and are easily attainable at any clothing or accessories store or online for a small price.
Cons to using scarves during bondage play include the fact that for more intense users, scarves may rip or may not last long due to wear and tear, scarves may not hold well for your purposes, or the styles available for scarves may not suit your tastes, especially if you’re a lover of leather or other strong and durable materials.
All in all, if you are engage in mild bondage play, using scarves may work well for you in the bedroom.
If not, feel free to check out our bondage section for more durable options!
Have a Nice Weekend!
Good Luck!
Sex on a Budget: Bosu & Swiss Balls Makeshift Sex Position Aids?
Most people know of Swiss and BOSU® Balls as exercise aids. They are commonly used to facilitate a variety of exercises including abdominal crunches, push-ups, and more.
But, what about sex position aids?
Think about it.
A lot of sex position aids out there are in similar shapes and used simply as a way to facilitate sex positions in ways that cannot be done by yourself alone. Both aids are used in very similar ways with a few obvious exceptions. So, that being said, couldn’t you utilize a Swiss or BOSU® Ball in the same way that you would a sex position aid?
The Benefits.
After all, think about all the money you’ll save. Depending on what kind of spender you are, you can save anywhere from $30-$200 if you double your Swiss or BOSU® Ball as both an exercise and sex position aid. The Swiss Ball can be utilized for mostly fun positions and less anatomically compromising ones (meaning no difficult or advanced positions!) due to the instability of the ball. The BOSU® Ball can be utilized as a simple position aid, especially if you put a blanket over it to make the surface softer. And, of course, you now have a position aid and an exercise aid that you can use for both getting in shape and getting off. I love multitasking!
The Drawbacks.
Drawbacks to using the exercise balls as sex position aids are that the exercise aids really are not that sexually or sensually appealing. Their surfaces are, unfortunately, plastic and not made for comfort so they would need to be covered in a sheet or blanket or you can simply endure. They lack a certain level of stability which means if you have bad coordination or balance, you might end up hurting yourself. Deciding whether or not to use one is really to your discretion. Be ready to judge your fitness level and see if you are up to par with the challenges this would pose. Lastly, sex position aids are more aesthetically pleasing than are exercise aids. If you’re trying to set the mood, it might be difficult.
The Bottom Line.
If you are really strapped for cash, this could be a good idea for you, especially if you already own one of these exercise aids. If not, depending on your fitness level and which you would use more (sex aid or exercise aid), you may want to simply invest in one or the other. All in all, if you do have one or wish to get in shape while you get off, this might work for you and will definitely save you lots of cash. Remember to consult your primary care physician if you are unsure about your fitness level, health, etc. before attempting anything.
Good Luck!
Tips for Multiple Orgasms
The concept of multiple orgasms is different for both males and females. For women, this concept is not so entirely unfamiliar or thought to be as unreachable as previously thought for men. Now, with new research and techniques, it seems it might be possible for both men and women to experience the pleasure of an orgasm multiple times. How, you ask? Check below for some great tips on how to achieve multiple orgasms in one sitting.
- Begin by setting the mood. Whatever it takes to get your body and mind in the right mindset and really get yourself turned on is important in keeping yourself in the mood. This could be done by lighting candles, playing certain music, burning incense, showering, or maybe some special form of stimulation.
- Some researchers advise those who want to have multiple orgasms to experience the first orgasm through oral stimulation or with a vibrator and then move onto actual penetration once the first orgasm has passed.
- It is also advised that actual penetration on your second attempt at orgasm (after the first) should be steadily led up to. This means, after experiencing the first orgasm, gentle stimulation should continue, but VERY gently. Continued stimulation is important as your body is already aroused. If clitoral stimulation is too much, try stimulation around other pleasure spots that are less sensitive until you feel ready. Penetration should not be involved until both people are ready.
- Multiple orgasms for both men and women are something that both parties need to work at. It is recommended that you take turns making one or the other orgasm if special attention is required to achieve multiple orgasms.
Remember to be gentle and enjoy yourself. This may take a little practice so if you don’t experience it the first time, it’s okay. It may take some time to work up to having multiple orgasms, especially if your body is not used to it. If at any point you are not having fun or feeling good, or if you experience irritation or pain, you should immediately stop. Although this is unlikely, especially if you are both being gentle, it is important to listen to your body and not do anything to harm yourself or others. Remember to have a great time and bask in whatever cums… Yeah, I went there.
The Art of Erotic Spanking
Erotic spanking has had a special place in the hearts of many for thousands of years. The first descriptions of erotic flagellation appear around 600 B.C. and erotic spanking as an art in the world of pleasure gained even more prevalence in the Victorian era, where much of the erotic art and pornography of the day featured arousal and stimulation gained from flagellation and spanking. Spanking is most definitely the most common form and most socially acceptable form of BDSM in society today. So, whether it’s your cup of tea to be bent over someone’s knee or whether you sqweel with pleasure at the thought of spanking your partner yourself, here are some fun tips to try:
- Set the mood. Decide what you want your theme to be or simply spice up the room with some candles, incense or low lighting to create the perfect atmosphere.
- Choose Your Weapon. Well, kind of. Obviously there shouldn’t be any actual pain (at least nothing that leaves a mark! ;)), but you should decide what kind of tools you want to utilize throughout the day (or night) with your partner. Whether you and your partner decide together is up to you, but there are a number of options to choose from including bare hands, whips, paddles, floggers, and a number of other fun tools.
- Choose A Spanking Style. Yes, there are spanking styles! You can spank lightly, firmly, in quick succession, long drawn out strikes with sensual massage in between, and anything in between those varieties or in combination. Choose one or try them all!
- Choose One or More Spanking Positions. There is a wide selection of places to deal out proper punishment 😉 including over the knee, on your knees, tied up in varying juxtapositions, handcuffed to the bed, the door or some other object firmly allocated to the ground, lying on a bed, bent over a couch, and more. Feel free to try what suits you or switch places depending on which ones hold your interest.
- Communicate. Communication is one of the most, if not the most, important things to keep in mind during any sort of BDSM fun. Be sure to communicate what you want (if you are the spanked) to your spanker 😉 for the night. It is important to be very vocal about what you want otherwise you’re keeping your partner in the dark and may not enjoy the session as much as you could. If they’re doing everything right, remember to use encouraging words every now and again so that they know you’re enjoying yourself. Your partner will definitely appreciate this as they will enjoy giving you pleasure.
- Have Fun! Relax and have a good time. Trust is really important for something like this and if you’re both beginners, don’t worry about the rules just yet, simply have a good time and take things slow.
Have a blast!
(I know I would!)