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What Is Rosebudding?

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What is Rosebudding?

Today’s post is all about rosebudding. So, for those of you who are not familiar, rosebudding is the act of stimulating your anal canal and walls to the point that the wall inside your anal cavity collapses and flips to the outside of your anus. Many people practice this as a kind of anal stimulation, but it can also be considered a fetish for others. Rosebudding is normally done by consistently using dildos and butt plugs, often leaving large butt plugs in for hours or even the entire day. The rosebudding normally occurs after having intense anal sex with an over-sized dildo or butt plug or via fisting. Some people also leave large butt plugs or dildos in all night and their anus rosebuds or “flower” blooms overnight.

Now, it’s important to mention that rosebudding doesn’t always happen for everyone; it really just depends on your body. I also want to mention that it’s extremely dangerous and we do not recommend that you try it at all. The reason is because deliberately destroying your anal wall opens your body up to bacteria and infections which can make you sick, cause permanent illness, and even death. Once the wall of your anus has been collapsed through the act of rosebudding, it almost never heals on it’s own. In most cases, it needs to be surgically restored and the surgery is considered a high risk. I don’t say these things to scare you, but I think knowledge is power and it’s important to be aware of how your body is affected by these acts, pleasurable in the moment, or not. Some things may seem worth it in the short term, but definitely are not in the long term.

That’s not to say you can’t enjoy fun anal stimulation, but don’t go to extremes that can potentially harm you and/or your partner. It’s just not worth it. Keep things safe, sane, consensual and fun.

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Disclaimer: I want to express that we don’t recommend rosebudding as it can be harmful and dangerous. Rosebudding can lead to dangerous infections and the anal wall being permanently destroyed which may need to be surgically restored at high risk. This post is meant to be informative only and does not encourage the act of rosebudding. Try at your own risk (but we recommend that you don’t).

The Historical Significance of Butt Pirates

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The term “butt pirates” is one you have probably heard at some point or another, but I am willing to bet you have no idea where this phrase originated. Butt pirates is now thought to be an offensive phrase, but the origin is anything but offensive. In fact, the sexual history of pirates was quite progressive for it’s time.

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The Historical Significance of “Butt Pirates”

Beginning around the 1600’s, “butt pirates” were much like “circumstantial homosexuality” that occurred during Greek times in which, during long times away from wives and families, pirates would engage in sexual activities and sometimes relationships with their shipmates. Some even completed a ceremony, at sea, called “Matelotage” which was considered to be much like marriages including the right to their spouse’s (or mate’s) property, living quarters, rings, and earnings. In the event of one mate’s death, the other would also have the right to claim their status, earnings, and belongings. Race was not an issue for pirates at sea, either, which was a surprisingly forward-thinking mindset for the time, as well, so interracial relationships were also common. In an effort to decrease the instances of homosexuality on ships, a French governor from Tortuga sent a trope of hookers onto various pirate ships, but this only resulted in threesomes. Women dressed up as men and became pirates during this time, as well, in order to escape their undesired lives on land which may explain some of the supposed “homosexuality,” but other cases are, more probably, a simple way for homosexuals to live openly and be themselves.

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11 New Things To Try In Bed

  • New Positions: If you want something simple to try, new positions can definitely make things more exciting in the bedroom. Requiring only a computer or positions book to find positions, this one will keep you busy all night long! For a list of sex positions that also burn calories, click here.
  • Mutual Masturbation: This requires a little bit of trust and a lot of confidence. Although it may make you feel a little self-conscious, this can be a lot of fun and really enjoyable for both parties. For more on masturbation, click here.
  • Anal Sex: Trying anal sex is not for everyone, but many do find it to be extremely pleasurable. I recommend you do research on this in order to prevent pain and/or injuries as there is a certain technique when first starting out. For more information on anal sex, click here.
  • BDSM: This one is not for the faint at heart! Kinky sex is not for everyone, but for a large community of people, kink brings a whole other level of pleasure (and sometimes a little pain) to your sex life. If you’re unsure whether you’d enjoy this sort of thing, you can always start out easy and try handcuffs or a blindfold to see if you like it or not before moving onto more advanced play. Find out more about BDSM here. Get the 411 on Spanking here.
  • Toys: This can be a fun area to try for both parties! There are a wide variety of toys out there, including couples toys, that anyone can try and enjoy. Plus, you can enjoy these toys alone or together, whichever you choose. Check out our toy selections here. Check out more on how sex toys work and the different types of toys by clicking here. For a list of fun toys to try, check out my article here.
  • Play Dress Up: This could mean a number of things. For some, this might just mean getting dressed up in skimpy lingerie for your partner. For others, this could mean full on cosplay or naughty schoolgirl roleplaying. Check out my article on lingerie for your body type here. Which brings me to…
  • Roleplaying: Yep! Roleplaying. Roleplaying can be fun for both parties, especially if you’re into a specific fantasy or have an out of this world fetish. Plus, it’s just fun to dress up and play a role, isn’t it?
  • Pole Dancing: If you have kids, this might not be so easy to try, although they do sell collapsing poles now that are mobile and easy to take down after using to store. This can be fun for a number of reasons:For one, dancers get to show off their sexy side by dressing and moving in a sexual way to please their partner. Those on the receiving end get to enjoy the show and maybe a lap dance! Check out my 5 Reasons Every Woman Should Pole Dance article here.
  • Menage-a-Trois (Threesome): Depending on the relationship you have, this could or could not be something you want to try. Communication is key and finding out whether you both share the same fantasy or are even willing to try something like this. It also involves careful planning so that there is no jealousy involved and that everyone is truly okay with the arrangement. Want to experience a 3-some without a third party? Click here for how to do it!
  • Sex in Public/ Places: Sex in public is, admittedly, illegal. I am not suggesting you go somewhere public and get it on, but I am suggesting you enjoy yourself in any environment different than where you normal would to create a nice change of pace. Whether that’s in your kitchen or laundry room or maybe somewhere else, I’ll leave that to your discretion. Just make sure it doesn’t involve you and your partner getting arrested! For fun places to have sex, check out a list here.
  • Tantric Sex: This is a different kind of sex entirely. Some claim this to be highly spiritual and it’s actually frequently linked to yoga practitioners. Tantra is considered a spiritual experience wherein the prolonged enjoyment of sex leads to a higher state of being. To read more on tantric sex, check out my article on it here.
  • Food: Food and your senses can make sex a lot more fun and interesting. Whether this means whip cream, chocolate syrup, ice, or edible body paints is up to you. There’s also the option of inserting certain unmentionables into your unmentionables, but that’s all to your discretion! To find out more on which foods increase your libido check out articles vol. 1 & vol. 2 for a list of foods to help libido. For foods to naturally cure impotence, click here.

Anal Fun 101

Dating all the way back to the Victorian era, anal play is considered by many to be taboo. Whether you’re using anal toys or simply performing anal sex or anal masturbation, many consider this to be uncleanly or unsafe.While there are some instances in which persons may engage in unsafe or uncleanly anal practices, it is possible for you and your partner to experience a perfectly clean and safe anal experience.

Anal toys are designed to be inserted into the anus to stimulate the small bunches of nerve endings and blood vessels located  in the anus. Useful to enhance both sexual intercourse and masturbation, anal fun can be just as pleasurable as vaginal sex and some even consider it more so.

The Facts:

The anus is filled with many very sensitive blood vessels and nerve endings that swell when one is aroused. When stimulated during arousal, the anal area is very sensitive to touch and stimulation. For women, the anus is located in close proximity to the vagina so when a woman is aroused, the vagina swells increasing blood flow to the whole area making anal stimulation very intense. Some consider even anal stimulation an extension of clitoral stimulation. For men, anal play is an entirely different sensation given that they may usually be the one penetrating during sexual activities. Anal penetration provides a different sexual experience for men as it stimulates the bulb of the penis and the prostate AKA the male g-spot. Many men are able to experience a full blown orgasm through prostate stimulation alone.

Misconceptions:

There are many misconceptions about anal play. One such misconception is if a man desires anal stimulation, then that makes him gay. This is entirely not true. A man who enjoys anal stimulation with a woman is simply seeking an extension of pleasure in a varying form. Begin homosexual is about being attracted to other men sexually and aiming to experience sexual activities with them, not with women. So, if your man wants to experience anal play with you, it’s simply a different form of pleasure that you both may share. Being gay is about who you’re attracted to and your own state of mind. Another common misconception is that the anus is very dirty and messy to play with. As long as both you and your partner have regular bowel movements and practice normal hygiene, then your body will do the rest. Your body actually releases a mucus during bowel movements that cleans the anus of most traces of fecal material. To ensure that little to no fecal matter is present during anal play, simply have a bowel movement at least one hour prior to anal fun and shower to ensure cleanliness. If preferred, condoms or latex gloves may also be implemented as an extra precaution.

Preparing for Anal Play:

2 words. Lubrication and Relaxation. The first thing one should do when attempting anal sex or the use of anal toys is to RELAX. You or your partner should be aroused and completely relaxed during this process. Also, since the anus has no natural lubrication method in the body, using a lubricant is absolutely necessary to prevent cuts, rips or tears in the anal area. Remember to take things slowly and if it hurts, you should stop, regroup and take your time until you are relaxed enough to where it no longer hurts. If you are having trouble relaxing, there are a number of anal sprays and lubricants on the market with relaxing or numbing ingredients such as benzocaine in them that will facilitate your anal fun. Using quality products is important during anal sex as well to minimize the odds of toys breaking during use or harming the anal cavity. This means that smooth surfaced toys should be used to ensure that no cuts, scrapes or tears occur during the use of the toy.

In the end, remember to have fun, keep and open mind and enjoy yourself. You may just find yourself in the throes of immense pleasure and ecstasy and how could that be wrong?

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6 Naughty New Years’ Resolutions We All Should Add to Our List!

As the new year of 2011 swings in the near future, coming closer everyday, I start thinking about my goals for 2011 and what I would like to accomplish in the coming year whether it’s to break a habit, exercise more or lose weight or both, or simply stress less, especially in these tough economic times. With that being said, I thought I would come up with a list of things I think anyone could try (just for fun!) in this coming 2011 that are sexy and fun just to say that you did them at least once.

Here’s what I came up with:

1. Try Anal JUST ONCE, Just to see how it feels! You may just love it like the rest of us! ;-P

2. Try Double Penetration; You may be surprised by how much you like it! Kick the third wheel out of the picture if swinging isn’t for you and simulate D.P. with this series of INCREDIBLE TSX Toys: Fidelity Toy Series!

3.This one can be attempted with any of your favorite massage oils and should be done when no one’s home if you live with others or children. First, place hot water in a glass bowl on a stable counter top and put your choice of massage oil(s) into the bowl to warm up the oils. Lay down either a tarp (if you have one), plastic mat or some newspaper to prevent a big mess in a room with at least 4 feet of space on all sides, preferably in a living or family room. Then, light up some candles on nearby furniture to set the ambiance and mood of the evening; be sure they are secure. Go back to your massage oil and spread it out across the tarp or plastic mat. Remember, a little bit goes a long way; this should just be enough to slightly dot the areas of the mat. In your birthday suits, you and your lover(s) can massage one another with the now warm massage oil and slide along the plastic quite easily. Whatever other fun follows is up to you! Click here for massage oils; We have plenty to choose from including great natural and organic options!

4.Try a Luxury Rabbit Vibrator like this one or if anal is your preference, try any one of these butt plugs for new sensations!

5. Enjoy losing control or taking control by arranging some power play with your lover. That’s right, bondage. Between you and your lover(s) discuss who will dominate and who will submit and have fun with a scenario of your choosing. Check out some great bondage items here.

6. Try a difficult sex position or one that’s out of the norm like the Pinwheel or the Butterfly!

Remember, it’s all about new experiences and having a great time so do what’s on your comfort level or maybe what’s not but that you’re curious about and have fun with it! This is the time of your life…enjoy it!

Happy New Years!

The Importance of Being Lubricated

When searching for the right lubricant, you might be completely certain, totally confused or not even know where to start. In the case of those who are lost and confused, not to worry! The following is a list of things to consider with each lubricant type (ie. water based, silicone, etc.) and what their uses are as well as the importance of lubrication.

First off, the important of lubrication cannot be stressed enough. Whether you’re having anal fun or more traditional intercourse, lubrication is an important step. Now, unless you’re 22 and still slippery without a problem, most of us need some lubrication assistance and that’s fine. Myself included, we are not as fresh and wet as we once were, but that’s the point of a lubricant and there’s absolutely no reason why this should hinder your sex life AT ALL.

Why lubricate at all?

Lubrication, whether natural or provided through the use of your chosen lubricant, assists in facilitating sex of any kind. This is really important because if you choose to go without lubricating, you are running the risk of causing internal or external damage or both to yourself and possibly your partner. This can range from small cuts and rashes on the vaginal or testicle area caused from dry chafing or rubbing to something more serious. Most people only ever suffer from these small cuts, but if you are someone with multiple sex partners, you should be careful as these small cuts can allow infection and bacteria directly into the body and may cause more serious issues. That being said, ALWAYS USE PROTECTION!! Not only that, but think about razor bumps. If you have razor bumps, it can be irritating enough, but razor bumps combined with non-lubricated sex can worsen the bumps and cause further irritation and discomfort that can take weeks to heal.

  • Organic Lubricants: This is my number one recommendation for those who have sensitive skin or suffer from allergens or irritation. This is also a great natural alternative to those who are environmentally conscious or those who live vegetarian or vegan lifestyles. These lubricants are made will all natural ingredients and usually pose skin benefits from using them. Many are also glycerine and paraben free. They are usually all toy safe unless otherwise stated.
  • Water Based Lubricants: Water based lubricants are the most simple option for those who really don’t want flavored or silicone lubricants and don’t want to pay for or don’t have a preference for organic lubricants. Water based lubricants are great for toys, normal erotic play and they are often times made with moisturizing ingredients such as vitamin E that are beneficial to the skin. This lubricant generally provides basic lubrication, plain and simple; it gets the job done.Water based lubes are all toy safe.
  • Silicone Based Lubricants: Silicone based lubricants are meant for VERY slick lubrication. This type of lubricant is NOT meant for PVC or silicone made toys as it will degrade the condition of your toy. Silicone lubricants are great for anal play, water fun in the shower or pool and anyone who wants a VERY SLICK long lasting lubrication during sexual intercourse or other erotic acts as they tend to be longer lasting than water based, have a thicker consistency and will not wash off as easily. Silicone Lubes are NOT toy safe.
  • Hybrid Lubricants: Hybrid lubricants are the best of both worlds. Hybrid lubricants combine qualities of both water based and silicone lubricants, creating a lubricant that is both safe with toys, long lasting and also easily washed off with water. Hybrid lubes are toy safe.
  • Stimulating Lubricants: Stimulating lubricants can be any kind of lubricant, hybrid or water based, but with added stimulating formulations such as warming, cooling or arousing. These lubricants give added sensations during use and can be especially enjoyable for oral pleasure. Hybrid lubes are usually all toy safe unless otherwise stated.
  • Anal Lubricants: Anal lubricants are just that. These lubricants are formulated specifically for anal play and many of them come standard with benzocaine, a numbing ingredient that helps you relax during anal fun. Others are formulated with like ingredients for similar effects and all anal lubricants have strong, long lasting lubrication qualities as lubricants tend to wear off more quickly during anal play. Anal lubes may be toy safe, but you should check the formula and box for indications of this.
  • Flavored Lubricants: Flavored Lubricants are most often water based formulas and come in a variety of flavors. More commonly, they are made with sugar free formulas so as to be non-irritating, but be sure to check the packaging for confirmation of this! If they are not sugar free formulas, the lubricant can cause a yeast infection in women. For men out there right now passing over this without a care: if you’re a straight man, just a warning, yeast infections are contagious and can be transferred to you from your woman if she gets one from a sugar based formulated lubricant.Aside from that, sugar free formulas are safe and taste just as delicious if not more because they are usually very low in calories. This type of lubricant can be great for oral pleasure and work well for any kind of erotic sexual fun.These lubricants are almost always safe to use on toys, but again, please consult the packaging to confirm.
  • Oil Based Lubricants: These are less common nowadays, but can be very enjoyable for those who favor anal play. Oil based lubricants are also commonly used for solo masturbation fun. Extremely lubricating, oil based lubricants are VERY long lasting, but also harder to wash off. These lubricants are not to be used with latex condoms and some may or may not be safe for toy use.

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