3 Sexy Summer Treats To Try
After many chilly months, the ice is beginning to thaw and nicer days are finally upon us…or, if you’re like me and live in Cali, the days of 90 degree weather are back in full swing. For most California residents, this means out with the shorts and onto the beach so I came up with 3 fun ideas to try beneath the sheets with your honey in the coming hot summer nights.
Enjoy!
This Sexy Body Paint Graffiti Spray Massage Oil is totally a good time. Completely edible and deliciously flavored, it’s perfect for a hot summer day or night. A nice cool spin to put on this sweet treat? Try placing it into a bowl of ice water or the refrigerator for a bit before using. This should make the spray come out nice and chilly. What a nice way to cool off! Be careful and make sure you don’t put it in the freezer though; the pressure could make the can explode.
Certified Organic, the Intimate Organics Relaxing Massage Oil with Lemongrass and Coconut provides a deliciously sweet way to cool off. Great for relieving sore muscles or simply for a sensual rub down, this organic massage oil is formulated with aloe so it’s friendly on any sun burns you may get in the coming months. Place it in the fridge or a bowl of ice for 15 minutes before you use it and voila! You have yourself some pleasantly cool massage oil.
The original way to cool off on a hot summer’s day, ice cubes are great for sensual pleasure. Simply take an ice cube and slide it around on your partner’s body for great cooling effects. Enjoy immediate relief from the heat and sunburns and enjoy whatever pleasure comes out of it!
Good Luck!
Buy Your Mom A Vibe Sale!
Alright, so maybe you won’t buy your mom a vibe for Mother’s Day, but you can buy it anyway and pretend you’ll give it to her then keep it for yourself! 😉
I won’t tell anyone, I promise!
At any rate, you’ll have to buy someone a vibe
(and who better to buy it for then yourself right?)
because our Mother’s Day Sale is happening from now until May 10, 2011.
From now until May 10th, you’ll get 20% OFF ANY PURCHASE!
If you forget the day every year like me, Mother’s Day is May 8th.
The sale will go 2 days after for all you belated gift givers who claim it’s
“in the mail.”
Don’t worry, I’ve been there, I’ve got your back.
Enjoy the Sale!
Sex On A Budget: Scarves For Bondage
Bondage can be an expensive taste.
For those who are frequent practitioners or simply love the lifestyle, it is a given that any quality bondage materials often can cost you quite a bit.
Therefore, finding quality restraints is often a problem experienced by those practiced and professed in the art of bondage.
So what if you’re simply an average user or bondage curious?
If you are only curious to try out bondage love or if you don’t dabble too deeply in kink, this tip could work well for you.
Simply employ some fabric scarves as love restraints!
This saves you money because scarves are often much cheaper than any bondage restraints available.
They work well for the average user and add a touch of sensuality to any session you might be having and are easily attainable at any clothing or accessories store or online for a small price.
Cons to using scarves during bondage play include the fact that for more intense users, scarves may rip or may not last long due to wear and tear, scarves may not hold well for your purposes, or the styles available for scarves may not suit your tastes, especially if you’re a lover of leather or other strong and durable materials.
All in all, if you are engage in mild bondage play, using scarves may work well for you in the bedroom.
If not, feel free to check out our bondage section for more durable options!
Have a Nice Weekend!
Good Luck!
Sex On A Budget: Cheap Handheld Massagers Multitasking!
Are you suffering from stress?
Need to relax and unwind?
Let a simple back massager go to work for you and help you work out the kinks in your back and your bed!
Okay, so I know it sounds kind of ridiculous, but a back massager works much in the same way that a clit or handy massager would. In fact, they hold basically the same functions with differing modes of vibration to help stimulate muscles. The only difference is they are designed to stimulate different muscle groups.
And, yes, your nether regions are made up of muscles!
So, my proposal is if you happen to already have a back massager or plan to purchase one to relieve some stress or back pain, why not put the massager on double shifts to help please you in the bedroom and on your back? After all, the prices for both types of massagers are usually similar in range and should work equally well.
The only thing you should consider is that #1: if you don’t have back pain, why bother with a back massager at all? If that’s the case, you may as well buy a normal vibrator. And, #2: it’s inadvisable to insert back massagers vaginally. Although it may not cause much if any harm to you, they aren’t made to be inserted anywhere and thus shouldn’t be. Therefore, stimulation in an erotic way with a back massager is kind of limited, but you will definitely be saving money if you intend to implement the massager for both your bodily massage needs and your erotic massage needs!
All in all, if you don’t have too much bodily pain or soreness, you may as well invest in a normal vibrator. We have plenty of decently priced vibrators on Romance Attack to choose from. If you do need a back massager for pains or stress relief, then this idea could be something to consider, especially if you already own one. If in the end, you prefer to keep your back relief and sexual frustration relief duties separated, simply take a look around our shop and pick out an affordable vibrator. We have plenty of affordable options to choose from.
Three Cheers for Saving Money!
Good Luck!
Sex On A Budget: DIY Natural Lubricant & Massage Oil
Lubricants can be somewhat costly to a person on a strict budget and you may not always have the cash needed to put down to get your favorite brand, but there is a convenient substitute that you might find more affordable in the meantime.
Natural carrier oils may be used as natural lubricants and massage oils as long as they are purely made. There are organic versions abound online and they are pretty affordable. Although they lack the smart formulation, enticing fragrances, and other special effects of brand lubricants, they are still a natural and usually safe option as natural lubricants. Although most carrier oils are safe for use as is, be sure to do your own research on how safe various carrier oils are before deciding to use them. You may also decide to add in your own essential oils for special stimulating effects, but be sure to do your own research beforehand if you are unsure how much to use as essential oils can be very strong in concentration and can irritate skin if not diluted in the oil enough. One might also consider utilizing natural butters for use as a masturbation cream such as shea butter or kokum butter. These are safe for use on skin as is.
Some Great Carrier Oils and Natural Butters Are:
- Almond Oil
- Carrot Seed Oil
- Grapeseed Oil
- Shea Butter
- Kokum Butter
Essential Oils for Stimulating Effects:
- Spearmint EO (Cooling)
- Cinnamon EO (Stimulating/Warming)
Although making your own lubricant or massage oil can be more work, it is easily tailored to your qualifications this way. It may not have the same smooth consistency or pleasant scent of a store bought lubricant or massage oil, but it is a nice alternative if that is not an option for you. If you absolutely prefer to purchase these items, then do so. It is important that you feel comfortable with what goes on your body so you can enjoy yourself fully.
Check out our selection of massage oils and lubricants for some great deals on all varieties including organic and stimulating varieties.
Good Luck!
Sex on a Budget: Bosu & Swiss Balls Makeshift Sex Position Aids?
Most people know of Swiss and BOSU® Balls as exercise aids. They are commonly used to facilitate a variety of exercises including abdominal crunches, push-ups, and more.
But, what about sex position aids?
Think about it.
A lot of sex position aids out there are in similar shapes and used simply as a way to facilitate sex positions in ways that cannot be done by yourself alone. Both aids are used in very similar ways with a few obvious exceptions. So, that being said, couldn’t you utilize a Swiss or BOSU® Ball in the same way that you would a sex position aid?
The Benefits.
After all, think about all the money you’ll save. Depending on what kind of spender you are, you can save anywhere from $30-$200 if you double your Swiss or BOSU® Ball as both an exercise and sex position aid. The Swiss Ball can be utilized for mostly fun positions and less anatomically compromising ones (meaning no difficult or advanced positions!) due to the instability of the ball. The BOSU® Ball can be utilized as a simple position aid, especially if you put a blanket over it to make the surface softer. And, of course, you now have a position aid and an exercise aid that you can use for both getting in shape and getting off. I love multitasking!
The Drawbacks.
Drawbacks to using the exercise balls as sex position aids are that the exercise aids really are not that sexually or sensually appealing. Their surfaces are, unfortunately, plastic and not made for comfort so they would need to be covered in a sheet or blanket or you can simply endure. They lack a certain level of stability which means if you have bad coordination or balance, you might end up hurting yourself. Deciding whether or not to use one is really to your discretion. Be ready to judge your fitness level and see if you are up to par with the challenges this would pose. Lastly, sex position aids are more aesthetically pleasing than are exercise aids. If you’re trying to set the mood, it might be difficult.
The Bottom Line.
If you are really strapped for cash, this could be a good idea for you, especially if you already own one of these exercise aids. If not, depending on your fitness level and which you would use more (sex aid or exercise aid), you may want to simply invest in one or the other. All in all, if you do have one or wish to get in shape while you get off, this might work for you and will definitely save you lots of cash. Remember to consult your primary care physician if you are unsure about your fitness level, health, etc. before attempting anything.
Good Luck!
Sex on a Budget New Blog Posts Coming Soon
So, times are tough. The economy sucks, the housing market falls a little more each day, and everyone I know is on a budget in some way or another. Sure, it may seem kind of discouraging, but it’s actually good that America is downsizing. We’ve been on a steady climb for awhile and learning to budget and downsize is not necessarily a bad thing. That being said, it’s understandable if you can’t spend the money on some of the high tech sex gadgets we carry (though you should invest in a vibe at least!). That’s why I’m starting a new series of blog posts on Romance Attack’s blog called Sex on a Budget. This is the first in many to come so stay tuned in the coming days, weeks and maybe months on how to save in the area of your sex life without sacrificing the fun.
11 New Things To Try In Bed
- New Positions: If you want something simple to try, new positions can definitely make things more exciting in the bedroom. Requiring only a computer or positions book to find positions, this one will keep you busy all night long! For a list of sex positions that also burn calories, click here.
- Mutual Masturbation: This requires a little bit of trust and a lot of confidence. Although it may make you feel a little self-conscious, this can be a lot of fun and really enjoyable for both parties. For more on masturbation, click here.
- Anal Sex: Trying anal sex is not for everyone, but many do find it to be extremely pleasurable. I recommend you do research on this in order to prevent pain and/or injuries as there is a certain technique when first starting out. For more information on anal sex, click here.
- BDSM: This one is not for the faint at heart! Kinky sex is not for everyone, but for a large community of people, kink brings a whole other level of pleasure (and sometimes a little pain) to your sex life. If you’re unsure whether you’d enjoy this sort of thing, you can always start out easy and try handcuffs or a blindfold to see if you like it or not before moving onto more advanced play. Find out more about BDSM here. Get the 411 on Spanking here.
- Toys: This can be a fun area to try for both parties! There are a wide variety of toys out there, including couples toys, that anyone can try and enjoy. Plus, you can enjoy these toys alone or together, whichever you choose. Check out our toy selections here. Check out more on how sex toys work and the different types of toys by clicking here. For a list of fun toys to try, check out my article here.
- Play Dress Up: This could mean a number of things. For some, this might just mean getting dressed up in skimpy lingerie for your partner. For others, this could mean full on cosplay or naughty schoolgirl roleplaying. Check out my article on lingerie for your body type here. Which brings me to…
- Roleplaying: Yep! Roleplaying. Roleplaying can be fun for both parties, especially if you’re into a specific fantasy or have an out of this world fetish. Plus, it’s just fun to dress up and play a role, isn’t it?
- Pole Dancing: If you have kids, this might not be so easy to try, although they do sell collapsing poles now that are mobile and easy to take down after using to store. This can be fun for a number of reasons:For one, dancers get to show off their sexy side by dressing and moving in a sexual way to please their partner. Those on the receiving end get to enjoy the show and maybe a lap dance! Check out my 5 Reasons Every Woman Should Pole Dance article here.
- Menage-a-Trois (Threesome): Depending on the relationship you have, this could or could not be something you want to try. Communication is key and finding out whether you both share the same fantasy or are even willing to try something like this. It also involves careful planning so that there is no jealousy involved and that everyone is truly okay with the arrangement. Want to experience a 3-some without a third party? Click here for how to do it!
- Sex in Public/ Places: Sex in public is, admittedly, illegal. I am not suggesting you go somewhere public and get it on, but I am suggesting you enjoy yourself in any environment different than where you normal would to create a nice change of pace. Whether that’s in your kitchen or laundry room or maybe somewhere else, I’ll leave that to your discretion. Just make sure it doesn’t involve you and your partner getting arrested! For fun places to have sex, check out a list here.
- Tantric Sex: This is a different kind of sex entirely. Some claim this to be highly spiritual and it’s actually frequently linked to yoga practitioners. Tantra is considered a spiritual experience wherein the prolonged enjoyment of sex leads to a higher state of being. To read more on tantric sex, check out my article on it here.
- Food: Food and your senses can make sex a lot more fun and interesting. Whether this means whip cream, chocolate syrup, ice, or edible body paints is up to you. There’s also the option of inserting certain unmentionables into your unmentionables, but that’s all to your discretion! To find out more on which foods increase your libido check out articles vol. 1 & vol. 2 for a list of foods to help libido. For foods to naturally cure impotence, click here.
10 Things You Never Knew About Being A Dominatrix
- Dominatrix shifts can be at any time of day. Sometimes shifts begin at 10 AM and other times there are evening shifts. You can set your own schedule a lot of the time which is why many dommes are students, freelancers or consultants.
- Being a domme doesn’t involve having a sexual relationship with that person. Dommes rarely, if ever, have sex with their clients.
- Some dommes don’t live the fetish lifestyle and see it as simply a job.
- Some dommes are shy in everyday life or shy in bed.
- Dommes are everyday people. They are mothers, teachers, freelancers, and students.
- Clients range in age, but are usually middle age men.
- Clients are mostly normal people. They are usually highly successful businessmen, lawyers, or company executives.
- Most clients are wealthy, powerful, upper-middle class men.
- Being a dominatrix involves being a good listener, having empathy, and understanding what a client wants and how to give it to them.
- Dommes are real women with real bodies. They range in age from 18 to 60 and enjoy getting paid to top dollar for what they do.
Happy Friday!
Tips for Multiple Orgasms
The concept of multiple orgasms is different for both males and females. For women, this concept is not so entirely unfamiliar or thought to be as unreachable as previously thought for men. Now, with new research and techniques, it seems it might be possible for both men and women to experience the pleasure of an orgasm multiple times. How, you ask? Check below for some great tips on how to achieve multiple orgasms in one sitting.
- Begin by setting the mood. Whatever it takes to get your body and mind in the right mindset and really get yourself turned on is important in keeping yourself in the mood. This could be done by lighting candles, playing certain music, burning incense, showering, or maybe some special form of stimulation.
- Some researchers advise those who want to have multiple orgasms to experience the first orgasm through oral stimulation or with a vibrator and then move onto actual penetration once the first orgasm has passed.
- It is also advised that actual penetration on your second attempt at orgasm (after the first) should be steadily led up to. This means, after experiencing the first orgasm, gentle stimulation should continue, but VERY gently. Continued stimulation is important as your body is already aroused. If clitoral stimulation is too much, try stimulation around other pleasure spots that are less sensitive until you feel ready. Penetration should not be involved until both people are ready.
- Multiple orgasms for both men and women are something that both parties need to work at. It is recommended that you take turns making one or the other orgasm if special attention is required to achieve multiple orgasms.
Remember to be gentle and enjoy yourself. This may take a little practice so if you don’t experience it the first time, it’s okay. It may take some time to work up to having multiple orgasms, especially if your body is not used to it. If at any point you are not having fun or feeling good, or if you experience irritation or pain, you should immediately stop. Although this is unlikely, especially if you are both being gentle, it is important to listen to your body and not do anything to harm yourself or others. Remember to have a great time and bask in whatever cums… Yeah, I went there.