7 Things You Didn’t Know About Prostitutes
Although many things are heard about the world of prostitution, the actual facts may surprise and even shock you. Here are some interesting facts you didn’t know about this mysterious and often risky profession.
- During WWII, French prostitutes began the trend of women shaving their legs. They did so to create the illusion of silk stockings when stockings were hard to come by.
- 83% of sex workers have Facebook pages from which 25% gain regular clientele.
- In November 2000, the former prostitute Georgina Beyer became the first transgendered member of any parliament in the world. She also helped in the decriminalization of prostitution in New Zealand.
- Ishtar, the famed goddess of Babylon, was a prostitute. Also the goddess of love, war, sex and money, she was given many names such as the Heavenly Prostitute, the Mother of Harlots and the Great Whore of Babylon. She was also known by Har and Hora which are derivatives of the modern words whore and harlot.
- 86% of sex workers have gained a high school diploma while 19% have college degrees. Nearly half of all sex workers work day jobs in retail and food industry.
- The word “hooker” comes from the verb ‘hook’ meaning ‘to entice or swindle,’ while the -er suffix refers to a person. Therefore, a hooker literally means a person who entices and swindles.
- In Nazi Germany during WWII, prostitutes were sent to concentration camps. They were forced to wear white arm bands with black upside down triangles on them to identify them as prostitutes.
What’s Your Sex Personality?
We all have different things that we like sexually and being intimate with someone can be amazing, whatever the style. Many contributing factors influence your sexual personality and the personality of your partner including the emotional versus the physical, looking versus touching, daring versus modest and verbal versus non-verbal. To further clarify, emotional v. physical is in regards to how you perceive sex whether you see it as something emotional or purely physical. Looking v. touching is whether you prefer to look and witness sexual acts done by your partner or prefer to touch them and be in contact with the acts. Daring v. modest is obviously whether you are the type to initiate sexual fun or modest and wait for your significant other to initiate it. Lastly, verbal v. non-verbal is whether you are comfortable voicing your sexual desires to your lover or prefer to show them rather than say. Here are 5 of the most common sexual personalities.
Which are you and which is your partner?
Let me know your personality in the comments!
The Sexual Deviant:
This type of lover enjoy taking action and often loves to be in control. They have a twisted kinky view on sex and are very adventurous in bed, often enjoying aggressive behavior with their partner.
The Modest Lover:
This type of lover is shy and timid and never initiates sexual fun. He or she prefers their partner to take charge. They often either prefer to be dominated or sometimes enjoy very gentle calm lovemaking. This type of lover is usually less verbal and has a conservative view on sex.
The Flirt:
This type of lover is all about having fun. Not nearly as serious or committed as the Sexual Deviant type, this type of lover enjoys to tease and challenge their partner in a playful manner. Often into minor fetishes such as tickling, the Flirt loves a game and sees sex as just another avenue for a good time.
Mr./Ms. Logic:
Mr. or Ms. Logic prefers to approach sex in the same way they do anything else in life: with a sense of great practical logic. They tend to focus on one objective at a time (ie. orgasm) and plow forth with purpose until they succeed in their goals.
Casanova:
This type of lover is good at everything. An erotic chameleon, your male or female Casanova knows how to be both modest and a sexual deviant, understands practicalities of lovemaking and flirts with the best of them. He or she will send you soaring over the moon in bed and leave you panting, drenched in sweat, and wanting more. Best of all? They make it look so easy!
9 Reasons to Have Sex Right Now!
- Sex is the Ultimate Anti-Aging Solution. Studies show that people who engaged in sex 55-116 times a year looked up to a year to 2 years younger. Some people who were engaging in sex at a healthy frequency were reported to look up to 8 years younger.
- Sex Doubles your Life Expectancy. Those in studies who recounted having more frequent orgasms had double the life expectancy than those who experienced sex less frequently.
- Sex Burns Calories. That’s right. For every 30 minutes of sexual activity, you burn approximately 200 calories. More calories are burned if you and your partner are trying especially difficult sex positions!
- Sex Boosts your Immunity. Sex helps to saturate your blood with immunoglobulin A, an antibody that boosts your immunity by protecting your body from infections.
- Sex Feels Great & Boosts your Mood! Of course we all know sex feels great and with good reason! Sex releases endorphins which help make us feel good and more content in life. Evidence also shows that semen acts as a natural antidepressant.
- Sex Relieves Stress & Pain. Sex sends out lots of feel good chemicals into the body during sex which, of course, relieves stress and can even be a natural pain killer. Sex can aid you in pains from menstrual cramps, muscle soreness, and even headaches.
- Sex Gives your Body a Healthy Boost. Aside from the emotional benefits, sex also assists in tissue repair such as wound healing and improves cognitive functions while promoting healthy bone growth.
- Sex Makes you Glow. Sex promotes collagen production which helps to keep your skin looking firm and supple while giving it a nice healthy glow. Sex also offers the benefits of shiny hair and strong nails.
- Lower your Risk for Disease. Your risk of heart disease and hypertension are lowered with sex by improved blood flow to your organs, the dilation of blood vessels lowers blood pressure, and of course the overall stress relief.
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Tips for Multiple Orgasms
The concept of multiple orgasms is different for both males and females. For women, this concept is not so entirely unfamiliar or thought to be as unreachable as previously thought for men. Now, with new research and techniques, it seems it might be possible for both men and women to experience the pleasure of an orgasm multiple times. How, you ask? Check below for some great tips on how to achieve multiple orgasms in one sitting.
- Begin by setting the mood. Whatever it takes to get your body and mind in the right mindset and really get yourself turned on is important in keeping yourself in the mood. This could be done by lighting candles, playing certain music, burning incense, showering, or maybe some special form of stimulation.
- Some researchers advise those who want to have multiple orgasms to experience the first orgasm through oral stimulation or with a vibrator and then move onto actual penetration once the first orgasm has passed.
- It is also advised that actual penetration on your second attempt at orgasm (after the first) should be steadily led up to. This means, after experiencing the first orgasm, gentle stimulation should continue, but VERY gently. Continued stimulation is important as your body is already aroused. If clitoral stimulation is too much, try stimulation around other pleasure spots that are less sensitive until you feel ready. Penetration should not be involved until both people are ready.
- Multiple orgasms for both men and women are something that both parties need to work at. It is recommended that you take turns making one or the other orgasm if special attention is required to achieve multiple orgasms.
Remember to be gentle and enjoy yourself. This may take a little practice so if you don’t experience it the first time, it’s okay. It may take some time to work up to having multiple orgasms, especially if your body is not used to it. If at any point you are not having fun or feeling good, or if you experience irritation or pain, you should immediately stop. Although this is unlikely, especially if you are both being gentle, it is important to listen to your body and not do anything to harm yourself or others. Remember to have a great time and bask in whatever cums… Yeah, I went there.
The Art of Erotic Spanking
Erotic spanking has had a special place in the hearts of many for thousands of years. The first descriptions of erotic flagellation appear around 600 B.C. and erotic spanking as an art in the world of pleasure gained even more prevalence in the Victorian era, where much of the erotic art and pornography of the day featured arousal and stimulation gained from flagellation and spanking. Spanking is most definitely the most common form and most socially acceptable form of BDSM in society today. So, whether it’s your cup of tea to be bent over someone’s knee or whether you sqweel with pleasure at the thought of spanking your partner yourself, here are some fun tips to try:
- Set the mood. Decide what you want your theme to be or simply spice up the room with some candles, incense or low lighting to create the perfect atmosphere.
- Choose Your Weapon. Well, kind of. Obviously there shouldn’t be any actual pain (at least nothing that leaves a mark! ;)), but you should decide what kind of tools you want to utilize throughout the day (or night) with your partner. Whether you and your partner decide together is up to you, but there are a number of options to choose from including bare hands, whips, paddles, floggers, and a number of other fun tools.
- Choose A Spanking Style. Yes, there are spanking styles! You can spank lightly, firmly, in quick succession, long drawn out strikes with sensual massage in between, and anything in between those varieties or in combination. Choose one or try them all!
- Choose One or More Spanking Positions. There is a wide selection of places to deal out proper punishment 😉 including over the knee, on your knees, tied up in varying juxtapositions, handcuffed to the bed, the door or some other object firmly allocated to the ground, lying on a bed, bent over a couch, and more. Feel free to try what suits you or switch places depending on which ones hold your interest.
- Communicate. Communication is one of the most, if not the most, important things to keep in mind during any sort of BDSM fun. Be sure to communicate what you want (if you are the spanked) to your spanker 😉 for the night. It is important to be very vocal about what you want otherwise you’re keeping your partner in the dark and may not enjoy the session as much as you could. If they’re doing everything right, remember to use encouraging words every now and again so that they know you’re enjoying yourself. Your partner will definitely appreciate this as they will enjoy giving you pleasure.
- Have Fun! Relax and have a good time. Trust is really important for something like this and if you’re both beginners, don’t worry about the rules just yet, simply have a good time and take things slow.
Have a blast!
(I know I would!)
The Fake Orgasm Phenomenon
Fake orgasms are defined as the act of pretending to experience an orgasm (usually during sexual acts) without actually experiencing one. It may surprise you to find that almost 50% of women claimed in web surveys to have faked an orgasm at one point or another and 40% of men claimed the same. I suppose the idea of females faking it (’til they’re makin’ it!) is much more accepted and believable, but I was surprised to find that men do it too!
Not that I particularly feel that women fake orgasms all the time because that just seems like too much work, but the articles online are everywhere and they range from tips on “how to fake an orgasm” to what NOT to do and finally to “he’ll know you’re faking an orgasm if..” articles which help men catch women in the act (literally!). And, by the way, not all the tip articles are aimed at women. Equal parts aim articles at both male and female readers.
Of course, women have been encouraged to fake orgasms since Roman times as a way to appeal to and please men and also keep their attractiveness (apparently not orgasming was considered unattractive?). Men, on the other hand, have neither been encouraged nor discouraged, but several articles online list instructions on how to pull one off.
So, if you’re planning on faking it any time in the near or distant future, here are some tips :
- Don’t go overboard with your fake orgasm “performance.” Obviously if you’re attempting to win an oscar with your fake splurging, your significant other or whomever you’ve decide to put on a show for will definitely know you’re faking it so keep things low key!
- Don’t make eye contact. Haha, I love this one! Don’t look the person in the eye if you’re obviously lying. Hello, this one is a given. Some articles even encourage readers to keep their eyes closed the whole time. Talk about awkward.
- If you’re a guy faking it, trash the condom immediately afterwards. Don’t want to leave any incriminating evidence behind!
Those are really the only credible (and I use that VERY loosely) tips. The following are tips I wouldn’t follow unless you really want to look like a moron or make your partner laugh.
- Panting & gasping frequently. Seriously? If you’re not already doing this during sex, you have no business sleeping together!!
- Grabbing sheets and/or pillows. Apparently this is subtle sign language to your partner that your getting ready for the big O, but come on, I don’t know anyone who is THAT theatrical in bed.
- Moan & talk nonsensically, then trail off. Apparently, this is supposed to express that you are so caught up in the moment that you’re mumbling or something. Personally, this would just weird me out and make me think you have a split personality or delusional issues.
- Allow muscle spasming…Because all of a sudden, I am really good at muscle isolation and I can do that.
All in all, I really don’t agree with faking it. I find it really dishonest. Although I do understand that sometimes we’re not always into the moment and simply cannot orgasm, I believe that if you simply discuss the matter with your partner rather than lying straight in their face, the issue will be diffused and settled. After all, if you’re partner cannot empathize with you, then why are you together? Trust your partner and trust that they will understand if you are having an off day. And, if anything, if you know you’re REALLY not in the mood, then don’t have sex. When the moment is right, you’ll both be ready to experience pleasure with one another and it will be a non-issue. BUT, if you really feel you should, by all means, fake it til you make it.
What do you think?
Do you think an orgasm should be faked?
Let me know your opinions by commenting below!
6 Surprising Health Benefits of Oral Sex
Aside from the obvious pleasure gained from giving (& receiving!) oral sex with your partner, you may be surprised to find there are actually quite a bit of physical and psychological reasons you feel so great after pleasing your lover.
Here are a Few of the Most Surprising Benefits of Oral Sex:
- Get in the Mood to Boost Your Mood! Did you know that semen actually serves as a mood stabilizer? So, that lift you’re feeling after pleasuring your partner isn’t simply a job well done satisfaction. You actually do FEEL better! Research suggests that semen may provide anti-depressant effects as it acts as an antagonist on depression. And more than that, it will completely lift you up as any form of sex has shown to boost self-esteem and confidence levels.
- Get Your Blood Pumping to Lower the Pressure. Ahh, the numerous benefits of semen will have you rolling or reeling or both. Semen has been shown to lower blood pressure and calm you down, providing stress relief, better sleep and contentment.
- Fight Disease & Illness For Both Parties.Yes, a shot of semen a day might just keep the doctor away. In fact, oral sex is beneficial to the health of both parties given that the more a man ejaculates, the lower his risk for colon and prostate cancer will be AND when a woman swallows a man’s semen, she lowers her risk for breast cancer.
- Don’t Stress it. Having a bad day? No problem. Semen will literally relax you. If you’re stressed, research shows semen reduces stress 10 fold.
- Immunity Boost Please! I know it might sound gross to some, but semen actually provides a good shot of zinc, calcium, potassium, various proteins and fructose which provides some nice health bonuses not to mention an immediate energy boost.
- Heal My Heart. Did you know that sex may actually help protect the heart? Several experiments also show that the chemical oxytocin (released during sex) may even assist in healing wounds, including stubborn sores due to diabetes, by regenerating certain cells.
- Cuddle Time! While lowering your stress levels and boosting your mood, oral sex also gets you in the mood to get intimate. Bonding and closeness are often felt during and after this fun sexual experience.
Side Notes: Did you know that oral sex is even mentioned in the Bible? Encouraged even as a way to stay chaste, oral sex is often referred to in the Song of Solomon and swallowing is encouraged in order to not “spill his seed upon the ground.” Crazy, ha?
So the next time you’re not in the mood to fool around, remind yourself of all you stand to gain!
Anal Fun 101
Dating all the way back to the Victorian era, anal play is considered by many to be taboo. Whether you’re using anal toys or simply performing anal sex or anal masturbation, many consider this to be uncleanly or unsafe.While there are some instances in which persons may engage in unsafe or uncleanly anal practices, it is possible for you and your partner to experience a perfectly clean and safe anal experience.
Anal toys are designed to be inserted into the anus to stimulate the small bunches of nerve endings and blood vessels located in the anus. Useful to enhance both sexual intercourse and masturbation, anal fun can be just as pleasurable as vaginal sex and some even consider it more so.
The Facts:
The anus is filled with many very sensitive blood vessels and nerve endings that swell when one is aroused. When stimulated during arousal, the anal area is very sensitive to touch and stimulation. For women, the anus is located in close proximity to the vagina so when a woman is aroused, the vagina swells increasing blood flow to the whole area making anal stimulation very intense. Some consider even anal stimulation an extension of clitoral stimulation. For men, anal play is an entirely different sensation given that they may usually be the one penetrating during sexual activities. Anal penetration provides a different sexual experience for men as it stimulates the bulb of the penis and the prostate AKA the male g-spot. Many men are able to experience a full blown orgasm through prostate stimulation alone.
Misconceptions:
There are many misconceptions about anal play. One such misconception is if a man desires anal stimulation, then that makes him gay. This is entirely not true. A man who enjoys anal stimulation with a woman is simply seeking an extension of pleasure in a varying form. Begin homosexual is about being attracted to other men sexually and aiming to experience sexual activities with them, not with women. So, if your man wants to experience anal play with you, it’s simply a different form of pleasure that you both may share. Being gay is about who you’re attracted to and your own state of mind. Another common misconception is that the anus is very dirty and messy to play with. As long as both you and your partner have regular bowel movements and practice normal hygiene, then your body will do the rest. Your body actually releases a mucus during bowel movements that cleans the anus of most traces of fecal material. To ensure that little to no fecal matter is present during anal play, simply have a bowel movement at least one hour prior to anal fun and shower to ensure cleanliness. If preferred, condoms or latex gloves may also be implemented as an extra precaution.
Preparing for Anal Play:
2 words. Lubrication and Relaxation. The first thing one should do when attempting anal sex or the use of anal toys is to RELAX. You or your partner should be aroused and completely relaxed during this process. Also, since the anus has no natural lubrication method in the body, using a lubricant is absolutely necessary to prevent cuts, rips or tears in the anal area. Remember to take things slowly and if it hurts, you should stop, regroup and take your time until you are relaxed enough to where it no longer hurts. If you are having trouble relaxing, there are a number of anal sprays and lubricants on the market with relaxing or numbing ingredients such as benzocaine in them that will facilitate your anal fun. Using quality products is important during anal sex as well to minimize the odds of toys breaking during use or harming the anal cavity. This means that smooth surfaced toys should be used to ensure that no cuts, scrapes or tears occur during the use of the toy.
In the end, remember to have fun, keep and open mind and enjoy yourself. You may just find yourself in the throes of immense pleasure and ecstasy and how could that be wrong?
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Auto Erotica 101
Auto Erotica…AKA Masturbation…AKA Onanism…AKA Self-Abuse…AKA Self-Pollution? WAIT A SECOND. What?
If you’re not sure what I’m getting at, let’s start from the beginning. Masturbation. Masturbation is the act of pleasuring oneself, usually with a goal of ultimate orgasm. There are many variations of that, but they usually involve that same basic A to B goal. It has been done for as long as we (humans) can remember and is even referred to in ancient texts. Even so, some people believe that masturbation is unhealthy, unlawful, disgusting, and abnormal…so is it?
My first response is Absolutely NOT.
Why, do you ask?
Well, for a few reasons.
For one, did you know that masturbation is one of the best ways to give your day a lift in a literal and literally physical biological way?
This means that the biological chemistry of our body is boosted by masturbating.
It actually FIGHTS depression. You read right. It fights depression. If you’re depressed and considering medication like zoloft, consider first masturbation or the art of self love.
Other benefits?
Masturbation releases endorphins just like during sex that help boost your mood and give you a feeling of contentment.
Masturbation also helps boost your self confidence and self esteem. That’s right. The art of self love literally helps you love yourself more. I don’t know about you, but I can always use more of that.
Many believe that masturbation can also promote a harmonious relationship.
Both masturbation and sexual intercourse help to lower blood pressure.
Masturbation also lowers stress and anxiety levels, reduces headaches and helps us fall asleep.
Masturbation also boosts our immune system which helps prevent illness.
There is NO, I repeat NO scientific evidence to support the facts that many say masturbation is bad for you, not physically nor psychologically. While too much masturbation may cause swelling, bruising or rash due to too much friction or possibly desensitization, these side effects are often rare and caused by callused or rough hands, overeager stroking or lack of lubrication. Anyway, it in no way will permanently harm you. In that case, you may need to lay off the self love for a week or so until your bruises heal.
Here are some Myths about Masturbation that are NOT true:
- Hairy Palms: I don’t even know how someone came up with this. This is just bizarre. No medical research backs this up, it’s not true so don’t worry.
- Blindness & Insanity: A study done by Kinsey in 1950s showed that over 90% of men and 70% of women masturbated in their lifetime. Wouldn’t they all be blind and insane if this were true? We’d be a living “Zombieland” so obviously this one is false.
- Masturbation Causes Acne: If this were true, every 14 year old boy would have acne and, well, they clearly don’t.
- Masturbating is For Singles or Loners Only: Actually, masturbation is for everyone. Those who are singles AND in relationships report masturbating regularly. Some claim it also promotes harmony in their relationship.
While some religious, moral and cultural beliefs may shame or guilt in their social groups, claiming that masturbation is sinful, harmful or morally wrong, it is actually good for your physical and mental health. Obviously, the viewpoints on masturbation will depend on your own religion or culture, but I don’t believe a righteous loving God would condemn self love in any form. If you are suffering from guilt or shame, talking to a therapist about why you feel the way you do about masturbation and they may help you overcome these feelings. If your masturbation habits are interfering with your daily life, happiness, etc., you may want to consider also visiting a therapist to find out why your masturbation habits are so frequent.
So, all in all, the thesaurus is wrong. I don’t believe that masturbation is in any way self- abuse or self- pollution. It is considered perfectly normal and healthy by the medical community and actually supports your physical and mental well being.
When it comes down to it, the choice is yours, so do what’s right for you and be happy.
Here are 2 Great Toys for Masturbation:
Men:
Women:
Happy Friday!
Healthy Foods To Improve Libido & Sexual Arousal Vol. 2
As promised, here’s 5 more libido pumping foods:
- Chili Peppers: Most spicy chillies contain capsaicin, the ingredient responsible for their spicy flavor, which increases blood flow and triggers the release of endorphins which makes you feel good mentally and physically. Bonus: They also help speed up your metabolism!
- Pumpkin Seeds: Pumpkin seeds are high in zinc, which is essential to optimum reproductive functions in both men and women and also boosts sex drive and arousal.
- Nutmeg: Surprisingly, nutmeg has been shown in some studies to have similar effects to Viagra and, thankfully, without any side effects.
- Garlic: Containing allicin, which increases blood flow to sex organs helping increase sensations in the pelvic region and overall libido.
- Figs: These little miracles are high in amino acids (protein!), which increase both overall energy levels and sexual stamina.
Enjoy!